I don't know that anyone is saying that it's bad (maybe they are, I haven't read that carefully), more that it can be difficult to exist in the world when the social instinct is the standard operating procedure for many things, especially in order to make an income. For example, self employment makes a lot of sense for people who are social last, but a big part of self employment is social networking. As you say, if it's not your forte, it's uncomfortable and feels like work, while so many people seem to enjoy it and do it naturally, with ease. So it can feel like a real handicap. You can hire people to handle the social stuff for you, but you have to have the money to hire the people, or somehow get the people's attention, and so...
I second the latter. Plus, after reading Joseph Simon's description
and the latter, it feels like...: I'm going to die. I'm going to slowly, agonizingly, with protracted suffering pass away like a beggar laying on the side-walk. Man, her writing is so penetrating and punitive. I didn't expect so many things that still can be said of these "instincts," after all the boring arcane and new agey stuff out there, but most of all didn't expect to learn that all along I've been hiding, keeping these from admission. Urrrrghhh, maaan. We are deformities, aren't we? Hunchbacks, maladaptively maldeveloped things. We are fucking going to die, man!!!! Unless some batshit crazy So/Sx wide-eyed fairy comes along to caress our hidden psychopath and gracefully integrate us monsters back into the conniving, fake social realm of feeling two feet above the ground = "civilized" since the invention of division (outsourcing) of labor with 3rd world countries and working classes taking on minding our shit, slaughtering and processing animals for our daily proteins, sweatshopping our clothes, etc, etc.... I mean integrate us more since we are already civilized as I'm typing this here....
The SX-blind stackings are perfectly capable of having enjoyable sex, but this area might be less of a “sacred†place for them. Some SX-blinds will not want to have sex unless they’re in “love†(or feel a social bond), and others are comfortable satisfying their sexual urges as simply a bodily function that’s enjoyable (especially SP/SO). This is contrary to the mating dance that SX-doms play into, the attraction strategy is the things they’re over-identified with, rather than the physical
wut??? Did she just call me a peacock, right there? I fucking can't believe this. I'm going die alone, miserably and on top of that be remembered as some exhibitionist asshole by the fact of being a loose cannon, the odd-one-out who couldn't keep his head low because he so much, so loudly needed to find a mate (instead of the more elegant, subtle social ways). Arrrgh man, it's so cringeworthy that we are cringeworthy, maaaan, I'm gonna hang myself, if only I was at least an Sp/Sx, that would have been way more dignifying. (But then again, dignity and retaining a social face is also something dependent on the 2-feet-above ground sense that comes from sharing responsibility, having technology's aid our bodies and the Other(s) groups granting Us, by doing the harder, dirtier labor the intersubjectivity of feeling "right," more elevated, more worthy, dignified. Which, in fact, nobody is.)