[SJ] SJs & sex

[Jeffster]

I doubt you can find me one sexually imaginative person that wouldn't find a sexually conservative person boring.

I think I fit that description. I consider myself "sexually imaginative" and I have never found sex boring, conservative or not. Some times were better than others, sure, but I can't recall any time that I thought "that was boring."

 

[ArbiterDewey]

Thats quite intense. My condolences.

Darling.......I felt much the same until I hit my 30s. I think I had become completely comfortable in my skin and my sexuality slowly came alive.
Topped then several years later...I found someone who ignited the depths of the woman I was deep down inside. The saddest part of that we have never been more than emotional...

I feel like a completely different woman nearing 30 than I do now nearing 40.

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by the way, I seem to have it 10xs stronger now than all of my friends. Perhaps it all evens out in the end.

Interestingly enough, I don't have a problem with it, if it is the case. Asexuality makes quite a bit of sense, and brings a feeling of "aha, so this is why I am the way I am." Similar to how MBTI did the same thing whenever you learn and research your type.

I simply haven't researched/studied (asexuality) enough to determine if it is really something that helps define me. It'll require at least one more g/f and sex once more. I'm not really looking forward to it, and that's kinda what clues me in already...

 

[violaine]

In regards to sex, I have had extremely limited experience. While completely hammered drunk, I enjoyed sex, yes. However, while sober it really wasn't that desired...at all.

I simply haven't researched/studied (asexuality) enough to determine if it is really something that helps define me. It'll require at least one more g/f and sex once more. I'm not really looking forward to it, and that's kinda what clues me in already...

Do you know why it is different when you're drunk may I ask? Also, will you tell your next girlfriend that you think you're asexual? (Just curious, I would want to know beforehand...)

 

[niffer]

I find it difficult to imagine the SJs that I know doing something as P as sex.

 

[Salomé]

I think I fit that description. I consider myself "sexually imaginative" and I have never found sex boring, conservative or not. Some times were better than others, sure, but I can't recall any time that I thought "that was boring."

I doubt you use your imagination as effectively as the rest of your anatomy...

 

[moonbaby]

Interestingly enough, I don't have a problem with it, if it is the case. Asexuality makes quite a bit of sense, and brings a feeling of "aha, so this is why I am the way I am." Similar to how MBTI did the same thing whenever you learn and research your type.

I simply haven't researched/studied (asexuality) enough to determine if it is really something that helps define me. It'll require at least one more g/f and sex once more. I'm not really looking forward to it, and that's kinda what clues me in already...

I always had the attraction...just didnt have much of the drive.


Is it just the sexual act, or are you not attracted period?

 

[ArbiterDewey]

Do you know why it is different when you're drunk may I ask? Also, will you tell your next girlfriend that you think you're asexual? (Just curious, I would want to know beforehand...)

Not exactly sure why it is different when drunk. Alcohol must have messed with me chemically. I don't really plan on drinking anytime in the near future, either.

And yes, I would definitely tell her beforehand.

I always had the attraction...just didnt have much of the drive.


Is it just the sexual act, or are you not attracted period?

I feel romantic attraction, meaning I want to hold them, kiss them, have a relationship/etc., but I do not feel sexual attraction. Nothing inside makes me want to "jump their bones," for lack of cursing. lol

 

[oasispaw]

In general there are two ways to be "boring":

1) unimaginative
2) overscheduled (not spontaneous)

They can be linked, but not always.

SJs can fall into the #2 while still being good lovers, but a set schedule can still feel like a rut to a P.

I don't think SJs are de facto #1 (as I said earlier, one of the most non-conservative women I knew was SJ). If one even puts a modicum of effort into being engaged sexually, you can avoid #1. When sex becomes just another activity, another chore to be marked on a list, then you have trouble.

be prepared for more scheduled sex when your child arrives. baby's naptime is always a good time...

i was never sexually conservative until i had a couple of not-so-nice boyfriends. one told me it was bad to have sex, the other told me i was boring. i've since bounced back and enjoy sex very much and my boyfriend's not concerned with any issue mentioned above. i know because i ask.

i don't generally talk about it with others in real life except my boyfriend (intp) and my best friend (istj).

 

[quietgirl]

Without revealing too much info, my SJ has a higher sex drive than previous boyfriends. I have no complaints!

 

[Misty_Mountain_Rose]

The best sex I ever had was with an ISTJ. I still sigh when I think about it. He was like a whirlwind of sensitivity, creativity and mischief.

 

[Cimarron]

The best sex I ever had was with an ISTJ. I still sigh when I think about it. He was like a whirlwind of sensitivity, creativity and mischief.

Wow...ref, could we lower that bar? It looks a little high.

 

[swordpath]

 

[Jack Flak]

I like the cape.

 

[swordpath]

I like the purple crunch berry being sex0rd. I'm kinda jealous of cape-bro.

 

[Bella]

Isn't that a blanky?

 

[swordpath]

It's a caped blanky.

 

[Bella]

It's a blanky, Beat.

 

[The Ü™]

I thought only kids used blankies.

(Isn't that illegal?)

 

[Bella]

Nah, lots of adult blankies going around.

 

[swordpath]

It's a blanky, Beat.

You're a blanky, ok?