poppy
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My mother (bless'er heart) and I don't always see eye to eye. This is nothing new in the world of mothers and daughters.
I wonder though, if you nice people in the Guardhouse can give me tips on communicating with her?
For instance, my mother insists on scheduling me to get my hair cut. Now, I am old enough to do this myself, but what bothers me the most is that it is illogical for her to pay someone $40 to trim my hair, since my hair is so long that the difference between a $40 trim and one I do myself is not visible. She does the same thing with manicures, pedicures, etc, and it's very difficult for me to gently explain to her that these things don't make sense considering our current financial situation.
I believe she values these things as mother-daughter activities. What I'm wondering is if there is some way for me to explain to her that we can have together time without doing these annoying/expensive rituals?
What styles of communication do you find the most palatable, SFJs?
EDIT: She's an ISFJ. Sorry bout that.
I wonder though, if you nice people in the Guardhouse can give me tips on communicating with her?
For instance, my mother insists on scheduling me to get my hair cut. Now, I am old enough to do this myself, but what bothers me the most is that it is illogical for her to pay someone $40 to trim my hair, since my hair is so long that the difference between a $40 trim and one I do myself is not visible. She does the same thing with manicures, pedicures, etc, and it's very difficult for me to gently explain to her that these things don't make sense considering our current financial situation.
I believe she values these things as mother-daughter activities. What I'm wondering is if there is some way for me to explain to her that we can have together time without doing these annoying/expensive rituals?
What styles of communication do you find the most palatable, SFJs?
EDIT: She's an ISFJ. Sorry bout that.
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