If you come off as boring right off the bat, I will not give anyone the time of day.
Literally meaning all or most of my friends are SX Doms. Sad thing about SX doms. Everyone wants or hates us. There is no "in between"
Well sure, also if you don't give anyone who comes off as boring right off the bat the time of day, then it's kinda guaranteed people will either love or hate you -- you don't really allow for an 'in between'! haha
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Romance plays an important role, or I have desired it since at least teenage years, even if I have lacked it for much of my life and had long periods without it.
Re types of relationships I enjoy, I don't know how to answer that, other than spending time with people I like and have stuff in common with (which is not that common/doesn't happen often - that sounds so simple but the ingredients that make that happen I think are much more complex), and that's positive for both people. At work I'm fine with more surface-level chitchat and banter, laughing, I don't have to connect deeply, outside of work, I don't really do the acquaintance thing, but nor do I feel I need to have super deep intimate raw conversations with those I consider good friends. Yes we know each other well and will have those convos, but I don't have a need for them to go super deep all the time -- I have just as good of a time, maybe more of a good time, just hanging out, doing activities together, talking about each others' lives and how we're both doing.
Re sx-doms, I don't know, I think I work with a handful, and tbh they're a handful at times. I think sx doms -- at least the ExFx ones -- are ones I tend to not feel I have a whole lot in common with in the beginning, and they can be annoying, but then over time they might grow on me and then I can appreciate them and enjoy their company. sx-doms of the non-ExFx variety, I'm not sure, I'd just describe them as more 'intense' - at least in the limited way I know them / they come across. I don't think any of my closest friends are sx-doms though.
Re opening up, I don't know, I'm probably not great, but I've gotten better I think as I've gotten older. It's not that I am deliberately withholding, because I don't think I am most of the time, it's just a)I'm not one to self disclose, like I think a lot of sx-doms are prone to do (?), and b)My idea of 'connecting' and being open is I think different than that of some, and it just doesn't occur to me to share stuff others might -- or I just don't see a point or need to. (?)