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Anew Leaf
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A friend of mine asked me recently if I ever want to have kids, and I said that that wasn't particularly relevent. (Go go gadget NF overcomplicating things!) She was confused, and so I explained my thought process. (I thought I would post here to see if other NF's think similarly to me, or if I am out of my melon mind.)
Basically I don't think about if I want to have kids or not because I have prerequisites that would need to be fulfilled before kids:
1- I would have to be with the right person in a committed relationship/marriage.
2- We would both have to want to have a child or two.
I feel that if I make me wanting to have a kid come first... then I am just going to leap on the first guy who is sort of ok but also wants kids... Instead of finding someone that I am truly compatible with on a multitude of levels, and is "right" for me... Then we can figure out if we want to be parents together or not.
The End.
Basically I don't think about if I want to have kids or not because I have prerequisites that would need to be fulfilled before kids:
1- I would have to be with the right person in a committed relationship/marriage.
2- We would both have to want to have a child or two.
I feel that if I make me wanting to have a kid come first... then I am just going to leap on the first guy who is sort of ok but also wants kids... Instead of finding someone that I am truly compatible with on a multitude of levels, and is "right" for me... Then we can figure out if we want to be parents together or not.
The End.