you know it invalidates my writing, if an enfp (Ne
Fi) relates to my writing about
Fe.
OMG. This is so true. When I'm listening to someone, intuitively, I try to uplift them by allowing them to spill their guts at me, lighten up the mood by doing something silly, saying something funny at the expense of joking at myself so they crack up, then lastly, encouraging them to be alone on their own to contemplate. I also like my space to recuperate after such a deep therapeutic session. My goal is mostly to get them to be who they are, at heart, because that's the highest form of respect anyone deserves.
what you describe in the first paragraph sounds like the right thing to do, for every type, though.
listen [...] by trying to correlate situational factors in their life that causes them to act the way they do.
after all, every type tries to dissect the same reality, but takes a different perspective on it. maybe just the way you formulate this sentence is typical for Ne.
i would also
try to understand situational factors as well, but i don't think i am good at "projection" someone else's
outer reality like a holodeck and ask myself: how would that make me feel. (seems to be the extroverted intuitive approach. or the cylon approach *g*)
so if someone gets beaten and cries about it, I would initially have a very hard time understanding his feelings, because this scenario is determined by the outside and largely unrelated to character.
i only start to understand people, when they communicate inner conflicts to me. i see how they have this specific super-ego over their head, and that bound of loyalty on their side and the contradiction in ideals and directives tears them apart. i can eventually tell what is important to them, intrinsically and ultimately, not practically right now. i see the distance and difference between unhealthy and healthy state but may be unable to have a realistic understanding of how to get from here to the ideal in a step by step way. this seems to be an introverted intuitive approach to me. luckily, i don't have to imagine or understand or know their concrete situation, in order to get this vision, because I could not do that very well.