thescientist
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- Jul 23, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- INTJ
- Enneagram
- 5w4
Yeah...the whole not letting people get away with thinking they have deceived you thing. I would be the same. It's kind of justice and pride intermingled, I guess. And it's very difficult to let go of. I'd just tell him, at this point he can go fuck himself if he doesn't like it and he should be able to take the fallout of his own actions anyway (that's not to say he's "to blame" for the whole thing going awry...but the gf thing...ehh). It doesn't really matter if he denies it, as long as he knows we know...at least that's my thing. I suppose it's more about being true to our own values (honesty, (confrontation), respect...)...I would respect myself more for letting him know he cannot just get away with it. This does give closure. Time to think about your own feelings.
EXACTLY how I feel!!!
I just said that out of anger. I would not dismiss all male ENFP's but I'd definitely be more wary of them.Judging a whole MBTI group based on the behavior of one individual is irrational at best and dangerous at worst.
I've given him the benefit of the doubt on so many other things and every time, MY gut/intuition was right. I'm trusting my gut on this one. So many things point to it being true. How serious they are, I'll never know, but that does not matter to me. He was with someone, period.You probably didn't give all the details here, but I just wanted to raise the question of whether you might have jumped to conclusions on this. Just from what you wrote, I couldn't really make a judgment call on whether he did have a gf when he was going out with you. Maybe he wasn't that serious with her? Maybe they were on hiatus? Who knows?
Anyway, it's hard to do, but I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt and while you're at it, cut yourself some slack too.