Winds of Thor
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Shoot!
Haven't had sufficient interaction to have strong feelings about it.
My impressions so far:
- Great conversationalists, especially when mature and well balanced.
- Entrepreneurs that have great ideas and what it takes to carry them out, but who should have people in line to take over once they've conquered the main challenges and move on to the next project.
- Great at creating their own jobs and talking people into hiring them.
- Best if left unleashed to do what they need to do.
- Excellent sense of humour. Kind of flirty in a non-serious way.
- Inexplicable appreciation for INFJs.
- Travellers
- Adventuresome cooks if they choose to pursue it.
Haven't fought with one yet, so can't tell you much else.
So since I don't know any really well:
1. What upsets them and what are the symptoms? What is the best course of action for the offender to take when they are upset?
2. How would you best get close to one? Do they have a system of gates or layers like INFJs or is it a different security system altogether?
3. What makes them happiest?
4. What do they value most in a friend?
In what way do they present the other side of the story for you? Is it drawing the connections between the facts to the people they impact, or is it something different than that?
Do you approach them, or do they find you?
What areas do you overlap with them and where are your sources of conflict? And are ALL of you dating INFJs or what?
Hmmm, add observant to that list...
1.* Interesting - I am sort of pessimistic in a general sense but optimistic in a personal sense.* We're flipsides.* However we both value consistency and acceptance.*
2.* I think we're generally good at all that.* I like having time to think things over, so am not generally too pushing about speeding it all up.
3.* Glad when your mind drops away because of the aforementioned owl-fearing twichiness, or because it is engaged in so many things at once?*
4.* Do you try to appear different than who you are?* I notice a lot of Ts put on a rather brave, unshakeable facade (see the Iceman and the Child thread from awhile ago), but I'm not sure if it applies to you folks or not.
I think we are good generally at zooming in on details and getting to know lots about a chunk of information that catches our interest. I am guessing that maybe you people are good at zooming out and seeing the super big picture, which means that we provide insight for each other. Would that be accurate?
Nope, INFJ men would be way to wimpy for an ENTP woman.
Space issues as in you need more than we do? I could see that. Would you be likely to get absorbed in your work?
You communicate more directly and are blunter. I'm guessing we'd seem a little too meandering in our communication. And maybe our need for processing time and revisiting subjects might throw you off. Would you express appreciation for the INFJ easily or do you tend to be critical? Anything else as far as communication style?
What do you mean you need affirmation as you tend to forget what already happened? You mean like affirmation that's already happened? In what form is affirmation most satisfying and appreciated?
Is there a specific subtype of INFJs they like? Each seem fairly different...
1. What upsets them and what are the symptoms? What is the best course of action for the offender to take when they are upset?
2. How would you best get close to one? Do they have a system of gates or layers like INFJs or is it a different security system altogether?
3. What makes them happiest?
4. What do they value most in a friend?
In the other thread just now, I noticed you characterized yourself as ENTPs as one of the most insensitive types? How is that? And if acceptance is super important to you, is it easy or difficult for you to reciprocate?
So you can see reactions if you remember to look, but it just isn't an automatic response if you aren't focussing on that at the time?
I am curious and outwardly tolerant, but am measuring what people say against what I think about it. I pick the people I trust carefully, but find it easy to trust them.
What makes you come out of your own head?
Are you a touchy feely sort of person in how you would show love or how would it be expressed most often?
I've never understood just alerting someone if your feelings for them have changed. This leaves the recipient with a constant feeling of impending doom because there is no chance to discuss, clarify or attempt to change your mind once the pronouncement is made. This is why they get all panickey when your love isn't reaffirmed semi-regularly and they cannot see your thought processes and you are not spending time with them. They will immediately rush to the worst case scenario: X doesn't voluntarily spend time with me. I have no idea what they're thinking and when what I'm thinking is negative I tend to not say it right away. Therefore, they are contemplating negative thoughts about me and do not need my presence in their day. It's almost over and I won't be able to do anything about it! This could so easily be avoided by either a quick peek into your thought processes from time to time (ie: Oh! That's all it is - absorbed by other thoughts at the moment) and also by setting up expected occasions to emerge from your head so they can take the pulse and be assured all is well.
On the other hand, I can completely see the flip side that you shouldn't keep having to tell someone something that you have already assured them is true and will remain true.
How do you like to be reassured of INFJ feelings for you or do you assume all is well unless otherwise notified? Also in what way do you take the pulse of your relationships frequently?
How does someone get to talk one on one with you when you are away in your own head? Is there a doorbell we should know about to ring?