You are not an INFJ. Puking not necessary.
Saying that I felt like puking was a literary device. Hyperbole to describe nervousness. Thank you for the permission not to vomit.
I am going to address your recent communications in this one post [MENTION=5999]PeaceBaby[/MENTION]:
I feel a core of playfulness and woundedness that makes CP and Saturned seem similar to me. The outer manifestation, however, is unique to each.
I would agree that I am probably more playful BECAUSE of having been wounded. It corresponds with the 7 in my tritype.
You have a need to be accepted and are aware of social protocols and this is the foundation of the confusion.
Yes, I would agree that I would like to be accepted AND have a natural desire to please. At the expense of being genuine or mindful? No. Though that WAS the case when I was younger and may still be at times of stress, tiredness…
Cloudpatrol: If not, I am fine with the meandering melodies. It all holds value.
Peacebaby: Maybe it doesn't. bless
Let’s agree to disagree. It will not be the first time this opportunity arises.
Your desire to keep all things at a certain emotional depth is part of the issue. I only tell you what I sense and feel as undertow from your posts. Whether you are able to recognize that...is an entirely different matter.
And that's cool, nothing wrong there. But where do they strike your heart? That's what you are wired to pay attention to. It's not your HEAD where discernment most readily takes place. Those powerful emotions are the core.
But you're suppressing, not processing. There is a big difference.
Are you ready to be drawn out? Ready to explore? I'm not convinced of this. You don't know what you're going to find in there, and I sense you're not sure you even want to know.
Because I am not adverse to questioning I decided to phone my grief counsellor and read them your post. Asking for honest feedback.
I was assigned a grief counsellor two years ago as standard protocol when one performs CPR and it has an unsuccessful outcome. Do you think that perhaps such a circumstance would provoke strong emotions? You would be correct.
To explain fully requires me supplying information that quite frankly is personal. I don’t feel the need to unleash my emotions across a social site. That does not mean that I don’t have any or am adverse to sharing when I feel comfortable.
Back to the paid, professional who interfaces with me on a personal level: They assured me I am highly proficient in processing emotion and that I am diligent in avoiding repression or suppression. They WERE concerned that someone on a social forum would be offering me ‘arm-chair’ psychological input - based on my limited conduct - in such a setting.
I was not able to tell them of your qualifications, as I am not aware of what they are?
You have not spoken to me in person. Other members here, that I HAVE spoken with, have provided me with helpful insight that's allowed me to grow. You continually address me in a manner that “assumes you know with certainty†where I am coming from. You say that you sense this:
I don't know what's in your mind, but I do sense the emotional state and what's paining your heart, the things you are hiding from yourself. Been wired that way as far back as I can remember.
I am also highly perceptive, but I would not make the assumptions you do in this setting. Making pronouncements supposing that someone is not aware and perhaps does not even desire awareness? No. I MIGHT venture to run it by someone but with the understanding that my exposure to them here is limited.
{I was going to explain current life circumstances that you may be perceiving emotion from, but decided I am not obligated to share these things. I have been open about the fact that my Dad is dying, and there are other things on my plate as well. We all are facing things in our own lives. Yes, facing. Not hiding from. That I don't choose to explore these things HERE, does not mean I am not "feeling them" and sorting them out personally}.
Do I have more to learn? Certainly.
It’s why I continue to interact with a professional. It’s why I enjoy spending time here, listening to the insights of other’s. I could explain further but again I don’t feel an obligation to.
When I navigated the unexpected end of my husband’s life I realized that I would never fear things in life again the way I had before. I find it off-putting that you would presume to know how I have felt or reacted unless you have personally been through a similar situation or walked this path with me as my friends have.
You have entirely no idea of the personal hell that I have encountered and the dignity I have been determined to maintain, while taking care to NOT ‘shove things under a rug’. The month that I joined here I took a trip to place my husband’s ashes in places significant to us. Was this harrowing? Yes. Restorative? Yes. HIGHLY emotional? Yes. Did I feel the need to share it here? No.
I prefer my time here to be productive and upbuilding. When I require help with serious emotions this is not my first stop (is this surprising?)
I look to professionally trained assistance or the help of those who know me well and intimately. I am not holding back in my posts or keeping them to a superficial level. I have actually been trying to grow and offer more (as I stated in the OP).
I feel I have developed true, productive friendships here. I have not received feedback from other’s that I am disingenuous or withholding. I hope that they would share such thoughts if they had them.
You discount the value in my thinking/rational side saying that:
“it’s not in the head where discernment takes placeâ€.
Again, a presumptive statement. I started to explain professional feedback I have received, but again decided that it simply ‘isn’t your business’.
If you truly cared for my well-being, why would you not private message me as I requested on another thread and as many other member’s have done when they wanted to point out possible faults I could address?
I cannot control if you conclude that my explanation here is “dodging emotional truthâ€. If you feel you know better - than people who have worked with me and have years of experience recommending them in their field - there is nothing more I can say