Silveresque
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You may be overly focused on details -- it's not about "caring" about groups/status, it's about noticing it. I'm So dominant and I couldn't care less about status. But I can't help but see who's friends with whom, who's ambivalent about whom, who groups with what crew of people because of what. Not that I take part in any of it, but I'm very aware of social networking when it's taking place (i.e. all the time, because it doesn't stop!). And it's not about "wanting" to fit in -- it's about noticing when you don't. Some people are oblivious to that, but if you're aware of social dynamics, that also means you're aware of norms. You know what's "normal", but that doesn't mean you follow that norm, or even want to follow it, just like Vagrant Farce said.
From all the posts of yours that I've read in this thread, you definitely seem So, especially in that last regard.
Also regarding Sx -- desiring close friendships only matters to instinctual variants in a relative degree. As much as you want intimacy, how often do you think about that need? Also keep in mind that Sx is about more than just intimacy and relationships -- it's about intensity of experience. I have an Sx/Sp friend, and the type of intensity he actively seeks out is the type that involves very serious, nonstop, five hour long conversations about life, love, science and philosophy (he's an ENFJ). But any other intense "intimate" experience could be included here. In general, you seem much more Sp and So than you do Sx -- your communication style and the things you take notice of in your life (yes I know this is a big generalization from very little data but hear me out) don't seem all that Sx relatively speaking. You only mentioned wanting a close friend that one time, and the rest of the time it was all security, reclusiveness from groups, abnormality.
I'm absolutely terrible at social networking. I'm terrible at organizing get-togethers, and I often forget to stay in touch with people, or else keep putting it off. And I'm pretty oblivious to who did what and who likes who and all that. I'm indifferent. And don't even get me started on names and faces. I honestly cannot name more than 3 people who live in the same dorm as me. I probably couldn't even recognize the girl who lives across the hallway from me in any other setting.
And if sx "intensity" means seeking excitement and thrills, I really can't relate to that either. This time I may have to decide on neither sx nor so. See what I mean?