It could be in the sense that you can read primary functions to a degree, I see Ne-Fi in the randomness and adding stuff as you go part, plus the use of emoticons to ensure intent is read correctly, ENFPs are very proficient in that area
*Can you tell me what you mean by " could be in the sense that you can read primary functions to a degree"
Thank you so much trinity *hug*. hmm Ne Fi. Oh and yeah i love those emoties hah XDD ^^D ^^P
see?
There are patterns in how different types write but it's just an indicator, not gospel.
Up until the part about feeling claustrophobic in crowds I could totally relate. Work generally means being surrounded by people you wouldn't necessarily chose to socialise with and even if you would it's not the kind of environment (generally speaking) where you can let your hair down so it's not going to be as comfortable as snuggling up on your couch at home.
I am very private and while being in my own space can be very relaxing and calming it's rarely energising, sitting and watching TV for example zaps me cause it doesn't engage me.
I agree with most points in this article. What do you say to this;
"it's not that all introverts are socially anxious, but rather that they just wouldn't understand why you would want to surround yourself with more people when you're already feeling drained."
That is pretty true for me. If i have come back from a long day with my friends/family and either want to do something with me when i just got back i will usually say no. It all would depend on how much energy i have after all that. If i'm feeling drained i won't go to another party or event hehe.
For me I know that when I'm totally drained being around people can help me. In the past I would have told friends who were feeling drained to still come out if we had plans under the guise that they'd feel better once they got there cause this is how it works for me, I understand now that isn't necessarily the case for introverts.
This is something I've posted before to describe what extroversion is to me;
When in isolation: I enjoy my own company, it’s comfortable and I can concentrate on what I want to do and get lost in my head, however, I know that I can withdraw into myself more than is healthy for me if I do this for too long, too much time on my own leads me to feeling slightly depressive and like I'm swimming underwater.
The healthiest and most productive state for me is when I get out and socialise, even for just a few hours 3-4 times a week, it doesn’t have to be substantial and activities can be more effective than being with and talking to people. Problem is I like feeling comfortable so I don’t always do this which leads to me feeling down and not wanting to go out which leads me to feeling worse and so on, once I am out and socialising I feel great and want to get out and socialise more often but making myself do this in the first place is the hard part.
If you do it to relax and get away from stressful situations or boring conversation then I can relate. If you do it because it re-charges you than it's an introvert thing.
Well I would do it i guess to get away from no offense to my mother
what i as a teenager the discussion i considered boring. You know the " i was shopping today/i saved blank amount of money cause i got these coupons when it would originally cost me blankety blankety blank.
*she comes running at me with her chatterbox as soon as i got in the door
Imagine me going "oh no...where do i run" cause some/most days are just not my days to hear that stuff details and whatnot. Just cause you already did it why do you feel the need to make a discussion about it with everyone who walks across your path mother. Would never say this to her face though hehe. you gotta love moms.*
That seemed to be a driving factor cause she wouldn't just mention it and be done hehe. She go into very long and drawn out details and repeated the same thing quite a few times.
I guess I needed to get my energy back from being out and about at school to being able to hear that but even then i'll listen for 5-10 mins after recharging and then politely shoo away...if i can
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Yup, sounds that way.
This part is good;
"Take going to a party as an example. An extrovert can go to a party and come home feeling invigorated. An introvert might go to a party and have a great time, but afterwards need some quiet alone to relax and recharge. A shy person might go, but feel uncomfortable and not able to enjoy themselves very much. Someone with social anxiety, however, may not even be able to bring themselves to walk through the door to get into the party."