Blackwater
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This is a thread akin to the one about INXJ and close-mindedness. The base question for this thread would be something like:
Do ENFXs commonly have problems with sincerity and/ or hypocrisy?
The premise for the question being that an EN will have an easy time tuning into what people want while the F will accommodate. Being more recognizable in ENFPs I have yet to experience an ENFJ who wasn't "strategically insincere" (i.e. a hypocrite to some degree) and the scary thing is that the ENFJ is all the more Machiavellian.
Let's turn to some examples:
ENFP
From Bluewing’s post on "types gone bad":
In my experience the type needn't go bad at all to do this, it's just second nature.
Or take the following New York Times quote on a supposed ENFP:
"He means exactly what he says and tomorrow when he says the opposite he'll mean exactly that too."
Which, again, has been exercised by every single ENFP I've known. Valuing accommodation and the present situation over "distant" principles they just don't perceive the insincerity and hypocrisy that invariably follows.
ENFJ
Again, the ENFJ has no introverted anchor to keeps its opinions still.
Isabelle Myers on the ENFJ:
"Apparently the urge to harmonize extends even to intellectual opinions. A very charming ENFJ who has been interested in type since her high-school days to me earnestly, "So-and-so asked me what I thought of type, and I didn't know what to tell her, because I didn't know how she felt about it." (Gifts Differing p. 95)
Or from Personalitypage:
"…Which is not to say that the ENFJ does not have opinions. ENFJs have definite values and opinions which they're able to express clearly and succinctly. These beliefs will be expressed as long as they're not too personal. ENFJ is in many ways expressive and open, but is more focused on being responsive and supportive of others. When faced with a conflict between a strongly-held value and serving another person's need, they are highly likely to value the other person's needs."
General Assessment
The things described thus far point mostly to insincerity. But how does that become hypocrisy?
- Most notably by the ENFX agreeing to one thing in one social setting and then saying the opposite two hours later. While this can be insanely charming in smaller matters this approach constitutes a prime example of hypocoristic when applied to matters of morale.
On a deeper psychological level, ENFX hypocrisy can be explained by the fact that ENFXs usually wallow in Fundamental Attribution Error ( Fundamental attribution error - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia ). Being Extroverts they are more likely to explain their own actions by their environment, yet they attribute the actions of others to 'innate characteristics', thus leading towards judging others while justifying ones' own actions. In other words, another prime example of hypocrisy.
MBTI. Psychology. Humor. History:
Postmodern Mind
Do ENFXs commonly have problems with sincerity and/ or hypocrisy?
The premise for the question being that an EN will have an easy time tuning into what people want while the F will accommodate. Being more recognizable in ENFPs I have yet to experience an ENFJ who wasn't "strategically insincere" (i.e. a hypocrite to some degree) and the scary thing is that the ENFJ is all the more Machiavellian.
Let's turn to some examples:
ENFP
From Bluewing’s post on "types gone bad":
-Strive to convince people of their sincerity because this is the only way they could feel good about themselves.
In my experience the type needn't go bad at all to do this, it's just second nature.
Or take the following New York Times quote on a supposed ENFP:
"He means exactly what he says and tomorrow when he says the opposite he'll mean exactly that too."
Which, again, has been exercised by every single ENFP I've known. Valuing accommodation and the present situation over "distant" principles they just don't perceive the insincerity and hypocrisy that invariably follows.
ENFJ
Again, the ENFJ has no introverted anchor to keeps its opinions still.
Isabelle Myers on the ENFJ:
"Apparently the urge to harmonize extends even to intellectual opinions. A very charming ENFJ who has been interested in type since her high-school days to me earnestly, "So-and-so asked me what I thought of type, and I didn't know what to tell her, because I didn't know how she felt about it." (Gifts Differing p. 95)
Or from Personalitypage:
"…Which is not to say that the ENFJ does not have opinions. ENFJs have definite values and opinions which they're able to express clearly and succinctly. These beliefs will be expressed as long as they're not too personal. ENFJ is in many ways expressive and open, but is more focused on being responsive and supportive of others. When faced with a conflict between a strongly-held value and serving another person's need, they are highly likely to value the other person's needs."
General Assessment
The things described thus far point mostly to insincerity. But how does that become hypocrisy?
- Most notably by the ENFX agreeing to one thing in one social setting and then saying the opposite two hours later. While this can be insanely charming in smaller matters this approach constitutes a prime example of hypocoristic when applied to matters of morale.
On a deeper psychological level, ENFX hypocrisy can be explained by the fact that ENFXs usually wallow in Fundamental Attribution Error ( Fundamental attribution error - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia ). Being Extroverts they are more likely to explain their own actions by their environment, yet they attribute the actions of others to 'innate characteristics', thus leading towards judging others while justifying ones' own actions. In other words, another prime example of hypocrisy.
MBTI. Psychology. Humor. History:
Postmodern Mind