A Schnitzel
WTF is this dude saying?
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- INTP
I look for a girl who is attractive, puts out after a few days/dates, and is easy to get to but not too hard to ignore.
Such a romantic.
I look for a girl who is attractive, puts out after a few days/dates, and is easy to get to but not too hard to ignore.
haha
1) hit it and quit it
- Hot, nice body, easy come easy go personality, fun, or depending how easy it is, you can lower your "standards" accordingly... but for me i'd always at least have to enjoy SOMEWHAT being around this person. I don't lie to this type about what I expect though... although if I am confused, I am definitely confused.
2) girlfriend
- at least decent education, not slept around enough so i envision other guy's sperm on my penis, + requirements for #1
- requirements for #1 can be replaced to some degree with requirements for #3
3) wifey
- good motherly, patient type. funny, someone I can look up to in regards to her decisions in life, clean, classy look, knows how to be spontaneous yet also know how to plan things, no baggage, very lovable type of personality, i mean, this list can go on, but I think its pretty stereotypical guy type stuff. =)
additional: good friend to her girlfriends/family, talented in at least one thing where she is THE BEST (can be video games lol, fashion, math, drawing, watever... as long as she is GOOD and very talented at it), has a "wise" point of view when it comes to group situations etc...
Acceptance, openmindedness, loyalty, respect for each other and each others space for starters...
I like to be challenged, so I tend to go for someone who's able to put me in my place intellectually and is able to banter with me. And, someone who isn't afraid of actually putting me in my place when needed. Am a big fan of the stern, arrogant exterior with the soft mushy heart on the inside
Flaws or quirks are very much appreciated as they are often so endearing
Turn-ons include once again intelligence,bluntness/honesty, confidence/arrogance, a certain dominance, the ability to banter and the ability to be ok with being vulnerable and having flaws.
Turn-offs include rigidity, being uncomfortable with things you don't know/ people you don't relate to, bullying, hounding others, and not caring about the fact that others just have as much right to be on this planet as you do.
Dealbreakers include cheating, lying, treating me like a child, constantly telling me what to do, using a disrespectful/demeaning tone of voice with me and too much jealousy. Jealousy can be endearing, but at least have control over it.
Ultimately, it comes down to someone who won't judge me for my flaws, and will appreciate my strengths. Someone who is able to compensate for my flaws with his strengths and not too proud to let me offset his flaws with my strengths. Someone who has a matching set of values to mine. And someone who's willing to form a very intense bond with me, who is willing to look beyond the facade and make an effort to see me for who I am, and allow me access to his inner core too.
Quirks in general..things that are typically them. But for instance introverts can be quite endearing, as they can often appear aloof and shy. Others are adorably clumsy. Blushing easily and feeling a little uncomfortable while exhilarated are some of my fav things to cause in others. Love those that are susceptable to this
Wow... i'll bet you can't keep them off of you. Who wouldn't want a great, caring person like you.
The whole soulmmate thing is cool, but I do remember how there are times when I think I met a soulmate every week... lolz~ im not here to be a romantic homie. just telling it like it is. I do take care of people pretty well though. Even the girls im just flinging with, did help one go to law school, another with their business plan for their company they were starting up, careers, etc...even thought it took considerable amt of time out of my plans, but thats not exactly what the OP asked for now is it?
I'm sure you did - issue is being taken with your ability to articulate that you acknowledge that they were valuable and worthwhile too. So, you're just flinging with them (they're not worthy of your 'real time and effort') and yet you're so generous as to help them with their goals. How magnanimous of you.
Most people do this in a reciprocal fashion -- i.e. provide some value if the receiver is providing something valuable in turn. It would be helpful to acknowledge their end of things. Regardless of the shape of the interaction, valuing people is important. You seem to but haven't demonstrated that very well.
Nomad, I believe your honesty is commendable, however you either really worded some stuff in a bad way, or you have a double standard in the 'girlfriend' description, imo. If I were to be your girlfriend, I'd find your need for a girlfriend that's not done what you clearly don't mind doing yourself, rather hypocritical, though I do know that many men share your view on that and would not admit to it in public. Other than that, I would personally have no problem with how you view 'love'. You're upfront about your intentions and they know what to expect and seem to enjoy it just fine
You know when you're with someone you really like, going grocery shopping together is fun? You feel privileged getting a glimpse at their laundry basket when they're folding clothes? (Or am I just a freak?) And when they text you just to say hi it puts a goofy grin on your face? Yeah, that.
For a LTR, I imagine what an ideal would look like. I want to feel confident and empowered through and in my relationship, I want to look forward to adventures and randomness and at the same time I want to feel secure and loved and loving and make my partner feel the same.
Another thing about a relationship is the 50/50 factor. I don't mind getting the relationship going, but if you never call or never initiate, then it's over.