kyuuei
Emperor/Dictator
- Joined
- Aug 28, 2008
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I had in mind a scenario when you already suspect someone is misinterpreting you. But there's no way that you can be sure unless they say something about it. So I think it would be their fault for not communicating that, unless the ENFP was knowingly leading them on.
This is exactly what frustrates me. People assume, make decisions, and act without ever allowing me in the loop. Men ABSOLUTELY love to make decisions for me as if they're so into my mind that they already know what I'm thinking and what I'm saying.
It's both people's responsibilities. I am always very clear in my intentions, and when my jokes or friendly behavior betrays someone's earlier thoughts, I correct them as soon as they say something. The problem is... people don't like to do that saying something. They allow me to remain clueless of the change, and they keep assuming and then when they finally do.. they get pissed off AT ME for my behavior and for 'not saying anything sooner'!
It just means that some people like "connecting" more than they like being taken seriously.
Depending on the situation, yes. I have no desire to be taken seriously by people who aren't serious or during conversations not made to be serious. I wouldn't think friendly behavior that seems flirtacious to some would be at all inserted into a serious conversation.
I do think that you can be friendly and lighthearted sometimes, and serious other times. If you're always one way or another it's not much fun.