ExAstrisSpes
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Well, do you?
I find it really hard to make new friends. *Easy* to make new acquaintances, but difficult to actually make real friends.
It's easier for me to make friends with guys than it is with girls, but I think guys misinterpret my personality and think they can get lucky. . . . which leads to awkward conversations and then it gets all weird. And then I feel bad because I feel I've done something to lead them on, or give them the wrong impression, even if I'm clear that I just want to be friends. I posted something in the awkward flirtation thread about a fellow who invited me to make out with him, even though I had mentioned my boyfriend several times and mentioned that I was only interested in being friends. I suspect he liked me, but I had no idea he'd be that forward, especially because we had never touched or hugged or anything like that at all.
So what gives?
I find it difficult to make friends with girls, mostly because they are on a whole other plane of existence than I am. I have a hard time relating to them without getting bored. The women I am able to be friends with are typically older, married with kids, and don't really have time to hang out with me.
Whereas men usually have great stories, and are willing to go do active things with me (like running, cycling, etc). I don't mind doing crafty things with women, but then I don't know too many women my age who sew or do paper crafts.
I find it really hard to make new friends. *Easy* to make new acquaintances, but difficult to actually make real friends.
It's easier for me to make friends with guys than it is with girls, but I think guys misinterpret my personality and think they can get lucky. . . . which leads to awkward conversations and then it gets all weird. And then I feel bad because I feel I've done something to lead them on, or give them the wrong impression, even if I'm clear that I just want to be friends. I posted something in the awkward flirtation thread about a fellow who invited me to make out with him, even though I had mentioned my boyfriend several times and mentioned that I was only interested in being friends. I suspect he liked me, but I had no idea he'd be that forward, especially because we had never touched or hugged or anything like that at all.
So what gives?
I find it difficult to make friends with girls, mostly because they are on a whole other plane of existence than I am. I have a hard time relating to them without getting bored. The women I am able to be friends with are typically older, married with kids, and don't really have time to hang out with me.
Whereas men usually have great stories, and are willing to go do active things with me (like running, cycling, etc). I don't mind doing crafty things with women, but then I don't know too many women my age who sew or do paper crafts.