ilixir
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- Jan 7, 2015
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- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 4w3
- Instinctual Variant
- sx
I'm decidedly ENFP and while I love talking and being with other people I'm constantly vacillating between wanting to be around people and needing to have time to myself. However, I can't spend too much time with myself, otherwise I get depressed and self deprecating. Both of these situations (needing to be alone and then needing to be around people) have made me extremely confused, and frankly, annoyed. I've tried to pinpoint a reason as to why, so if any of you guys know the answer/can relate your own situations, that would be great.
1. HSP's. I've read about HSP's in Dr. Elaine Aron's book, The Highly Sensitive Person. I agree with the general definition: people who overstimulate too easily. For example, I can go to music concerts for an hour or so but after a while I get tired and want to just sleep, or be alone, or be with one singular person and simply talk. However, I had always originally thought that introverts were defined by their sensitivity scale, and not their "shyness", as they are commonly misidentified by.
2. ENFP's tend to want to cultivate personal relationships, and find deeper depths to their friendships. This probably isn't the same for all NF's, or even all ENFP's, but I think that's a good reason as to why I would prefer being with a few people at a time. However, it doesn't explain the back and forth with alone/with people.
3. Ambiverts. People who are in between the spectrum. Haven't read much on them, so I can't make an informed decision. Also, I don't believe I'm in the middle of the spectrum, because when I get my "mood changes", I either really need to be around people or really need to be alone for a while. There's rarely an in between.
If anyone knows about this constant switching back and forth, and/or if it ties into NF's, please comment in the thread!
1. HSP's. I've read about HSP's in Dr. Elaine Aron's book, The Highly Sensitive Person. I agree with the general definition: people who overstimulate too easily. For example, I can go to music concerts for an hour or so but after a while I get tired and want to just sleep, or be alone, or be with one singular person and simply talk. However, I had always originally thought that introverts were defined by their sensitivity scale, and not their "shyness", as they are commonly misidentified by.
2. ENFP's tend to want to cultivate personal relationships, and find deeper depths to their friendships. This probably isn't the same for all NF's, or even all ENFP's, but I think that's a good reason as to why I would prefer being with a few people at a time. However, it doesn't explain the back and forth with alone/with people.
3. Ambiverts. People who are in between the spectrum. Haven't read much on them, so I can't make an informed decision. Also, I don't believe I'm in the middle of the spectrum, because when I get my "mood changes", I either really need to be around people or really need to be alone for a while. There's rarely an in between.
If anyone knows about this constant switching back and forth, and/or if it ties into NF's, please comment in the thread!