and you read her private conversations? sorry but IMO you deserved to get your feelings hurt for doing that. it's just a different version of the saying "don't ask a question if you're not ready to know the answer": don't snoop around in people's private stuff to find dirt unless you're willing to get dirty. i've had ex's (mind you i'm not with any of those douchebags now) who've snooped on me and i've never dignified their rantings with an explanation because the very fact that they were snooping means that they would have continued to do so until they found something as proof for whatever their issues are. it's a no win situation for the person being snooped on and needless drama.
...Yeaaah. My way of greeting my S.O is telling how I had her mum the other night. But it's okay - she does the same. It's kind of our greeting ritual. I think IXTPs need to have a partner with the emotional sensitivity of a rhino's hide.
Was gonna say something but decided not too.
Aww look, I said something completely useless.
*continues to observe*
this relationship is unhealthy, she talking with her ex about your relationship, and you need to get out.
Nobody I know is okay with their SO talking with their ex (even moreso about their current relationship), IF they actually see the current relationship going deeper than a sexual partnership.
Let me ask something just for the sake of discussion.
I know a LOT of my male friends have given me a patronizing head pat when I say that girls and guys can be just friends. I argued forever that they could. My male friends told me, "No, you're either sister material or a potential."
So. Having said that. Someone that you used to date = a potential, once. Does that ever completely go away? Even if you don't act on it, does it really take a hike if you're on good enough terms to remain close friends?
Hi everyone I have returned. I have found myself in a vulnerable state and I need help not smart remarks or insults, please.
So I have question. I've been dating an INTP female recently and things have been going well. I am a very protective Alpha male and I have no clue why but I am very jealous that she talks to this one guy she used to sleep with over a year ago. Recently I took her to the ballet and she said it was the number 1 date she's ever been on and I asked what number two was and it was a date this guy took her out on. Idk why but it drives me NUTS and I wanna smash this kids head with a brick. Also they both supported obama together and both don't believe in God and she had sex with him on a rooftop (I'm a conservative republican christian, a religious enfj shocker i know). Idk this shit all makes me so FURIOUS. I haven't spoke to her about it also he made fun of me recently via IM. I read it she asked him a question and he said "ask your bf he hears from God directly " yes i am aware that my behaviors aren't very christian but I am just a man and this is how I feel. I am confident enough to want to solve this problem. I am a psychology major so I am trying to have closure on this subject because it's literally eating me up inside. But yeah basically I want to smash this kid's head with a brick and I dont wanna feel like that. So someone help please? also please feel free to ask questions if you feel they would lead to answers
All that to say, some of the guys who have a thing for you, can't help it. So be nice, but uninviting whenever you sense they might be drifting in that direction.
That's it? I can't use all those rubber-tipped bullets and the tear gas and tasers I'm carrying in my purse?
Well, that would be the next step, but you want to try to be nice first to avoid unnecessarily scaring them for life.
We can't help it.
That's not a cop out. It's a fact.
Even when I'm in the room with my shadow, if she's hot, my logical barriers break down, and I start to imagine what life might be like, idealized, with her. I've trained my Department of Physical Will, or SeIA, to run buckwild in the opposite direction whenever my mind starts to do that, ESPECIALLY in the bowels of ministry.
Let me ask something just for the sake of discussion.
I know a LOT of my male friends have given me a patronizing head pat when I say that girls and guys can be just friends. I argued forever that they could. My male friends told me, "No, you're either sister material or a potential."
So. Having said that. Someone that you used to date = a potential, once. Does that ever completely go away? Even if you don't act on it, does it really take a hike if you're on good enough terms to remain close friends?
Maybe in a man's mind there is always the potential. I would not doubt that. I know it's possible because one of my exes is a great friend to me. I would never think of entertaining him on any other level. Period. So, it is possible but I will grant you that it is a rare thing.