Sorry to jump in, but in case of INFJs, when you have to choose between harmony and values, two things can happen:
1. Depression. Common with Fe doms, who usually go through the 5 stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
2. Ni-Ti looping. The equivalent of bluescreening. Usually leads to point 1 but may also lead to point 3.
3. Fi kicks in and you're saved. Sort of. Kinda. INFJs usually have a nice bag of good Fi somewhere after the primary Ni and secondary Fe cognitive functions. It's something that all INFJs posses, but not all have the same amount of Fi.
I personally go with the fuck all attitude and seek another group to join by association, but not by assimilation. I know, not very Fe, but being a Fe user all my life, I've learned that sometimes, you gotta think too, not just feel. You have to reach a balance between your values and the values of the group. You should not sacrifice your good values just for the sake of belonging. You will belong, but you will become depressed. The thing is, you would have become depressed even if you didn't join the group and suffered of isolation, but at least your values would have been spared the indignity of being trashed.
