mrcockburn
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Another thing I've noticed, is if an SJ is criticizing me, they'll use the "NO ONE else does that, you're the ONLY ONE who does/believes that." Like that's supposed to deter me. "Everyone" once believed the earth was flat, too.
Gah. Story of my life there. Except my mum would've started screaming at me and crying about how I "didn't care or love her", otherwise I'd obviously WANT to rearrange the sofa. As if every action I take is based on my love or hatred for people. :rolli:
Ne discrimination. I've heard of that happening. A man and a woman offer the exact same ideas.
To the man: "Wow, that's brilliant! Ingenious, insightful! Truly a visionary on the team."
To the woman: "err... lolwut...?" (*crazy lady mumble mumble*) "I'll consider it." (condescending pat on the shoulder)
It's like what I mentioned with the crying at work. Men aren't judged as harshly as women are. On the opposite end of the spectrum, women are ALSO judged harshly if they don't express ENOUGH emotion.
I hate living in an SJ world. I really hate it. Every time I hear about all these stupid, stupid outdated rules of society that you are supposed to comply to or be outcast, it just makes me want to punch whoever has mentioned it. Here's an example of a conversation (paraphrased) between me and my ISFJ mum (and one that actually shows one of the less stupid traditions).
MUM: We've got to clean up the house.
ME: Why? It'll be dirty in 2 days.
MUM: We have people coming over. Just do a quick clean.
ME: It's (insert irrelevant person who we see all the time). They know our house is messy.
MUM: Well some of us have some level of self respect. I don't want them to know we live in a pigsty.
ME: But it doesn't MATTER what the external appearance of something is AND they've seen that we have a messy house already!
MUM: It's just a matter of dignity. It's a personal thing, to know that my house is clean makes me feel good, like I'm not a slob.
ME: But it's NOT USUALLY CLEAN! You know that, so what are you proving to yourself or anyone?
MUM: (Pointless jibberish) Now come on and help.
ME: Why do I have to help. I think the whole thing is pointless, I didn't put anything here and it doesn't matter to me.
MUM: You're part of the family, it's your duty to help out.
(endless loop)
Gah. Story of my life there. Except my mum would've started screaming at me and crying about how I "didn't care or love her", otherwise I'd obviously WANT to rearrange the sofa. As if every action I take is based on my love or hatred for people. :rolli:
I read an article once said that it's better to be enfp male than enfp female in work environment because having enfp qualities in men are more appreciative than having that in women. The article also mentioned that enfp men in general do better in term of career advancement than women. I'm sure it's not like this in every cases but I can see how that play out so I think there's some truth to it.
Ne discrimination. I've heard of that happening. A man and a woman offer the exact same ideas.
To the man: "Wow, that's brilliant! Ingenious, insightful! Truly a visionary on the team."
To the woman: "err... lolwut...?" (*crazy lady mumble mumble*) "I'll consider it." (condescending pat on the shoulder)
It's like what I mentioned with the crying at work. Men aren't judged as harshly as women are. On the opposite end of the spectrum, women are ALSO judged harshly if they don't express ENOUGH emotion.