Affably Evil
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perhaps it's just my observations, but every single ENFP guy I've met (about 10 or so) was sexual as hell with everything. they're sexual with their friends, they're sexual with their pets, they're sexual with their mannerisms, they're sexual with their voice inflection, they're REALLY sexual with their SO's.
these traits definitely all apply to mebut is this all ENFP guys or just the ones I've observed?
There's a difference between sensual and sexual, though granted some convergence between the two. The ENFPs I've known have been more relationally focused, and to that end naturally concerned with the needs of those around them but having a somewhat steep learning curve in doing so — my perception of this may have been principally due to their sincere desire to learn how to navigate their relationships with others and to that end utilize me as a consultant when encountering roadblocks with those they were trying to connect with. The connection aspect really is key for the ENFPs I've known, and it's possible that some male ENFPs access that sense of connection primarily through sexuality and sexual relationships, though I haven't seen that myself.
I have not seen sensuality to be a particularly recurrent personality trait, however, when the sensate element is divorced from personal interaction or connection. When I think of sensuality, I tend to think of more of accessing the experiential, the practical, the immediate, and well, the sensory. I haven't noticed this as a particular trait of ENFPs more than other types, except insofar as that we are all to some degree physical persons and constantly encountering and responding to sensory information. I have noticed ENFPs wanting to attune their interactions with others to augment whatever axis of relation they're on, be it platonically or sexually or whatever.
If you're asking what personality type is the the most demonstrably sexual, it's possible that ENFPs are on the higher end, but I don't agree that being demonstrably sexual necessarily constitutes "sexual" — that would depend on your definitions with regard to say, externally perceived sexual performance (by performance I mean social performance and interaction rather than individual technique) versus say, interior preoccupation but less general external demonstration (with certain private exceptions that are more intense) or whatever criteria you're choosing to use to judge it.
I do hear it's difficult to find men who enjoy sex and enjoy talking about sex, so definitely must be an ENFP thing.
