I voted loner. I do a lot of stuff on my own that many would consider social things, like going to concerts & the beach. I do these things alone more than I do things with friends.
I have a few, close friends, but we don't keep in consistent contact. I'm one of those people who can disappear for weeks, even months on end. I'll socialize with a group on occasion, but I'm not a regular part of any clique. I only hang out with my family often because I live so close & they always initiate it. When I lived farther away, they'd complain I was MIA a lot of the time.
Ultimately, I desire to be in the "few, close individual friends" category. I'm just bad at keeping in contact, initiating, and planning. Growing up, I tended to have 1-2 best friends I'd get really close to, and I've felt that lacking more often than not as adult. I realize I expect the other person to initiate too much.
I'm also the kind where when I'm dating someone, it takes my whole focus. I maintain my other relationships even less. I fear this makes me seem clingy both with boyfriends & friends, so then I pull back or keep guarded to assert my independence. I want this mutual obsession, but I realize most people don't want their relationships at that level.
I'm nearly incapable of spreading myself evenly across a group. In group settings, I still tend to zero in on one person, probably appearing too intense & monopolizing them. Yet, I admit, from a distance, cliques seem really nice. I used to think it would be great to be a part of a group, that it would provide some sense of security with people, an identity of sorts, but then I can't even imagine how I'd function within one. Everytime I'm in a group setting I find myself wanting to zero in on one person or shrink into a corner alone & just observe.
***For those of you who feel you're on the border of these categories & the definitions don't fully clarify it for you, just vote in the way you see yourself the most. I realize no one is 100% anything. The "few, individual friends" doesn't exclude many casual acquaintances necessarily (or many close, individual friends; I suppose I assumed the nature of close means you can't have that many).