The NFPs here have helped me develop an emotional intelligence that wasn't there when I first entered the forum... The wise NFPs will usually ask the right questions and make me think for myself.
That said, I can't see myself with an ENFP on the long term. I find it challenging to connect with them on a deeper level, and the Ti-Fi clash would be a big source of drama. yikes.
It means a lot to hear you say that - I've often wondered if Fi does have something to offer to Ti-users, myself.
I also wonder if it possible to get over that hump - the connection challenge, I mean. Maybe awareness alone would be enough, or maybe the frustration due to the rift would eventually just get the upper hand. And if awareness alone isn't enough, is there a way to become good enough, if the motivation is there, at switching perspectives in order to facilitate that connection?
A friend of mine is INTP - we have more of a sister-brother bond and we are...well, we're evil together when we get to scheming (he basically games the entire situation with his Ti and has me game the social part of it for him, and then equally divides the spoils with me). He recently started dating what I think is another...EFP. Let's just say me and her got along exceeeeedingly well, when we met. The one moment during that interaction that we joined together to argue against him, he sort of looked frustrated and annoyed that we argued the Fi side instead of being able to switch to the Ti side. And in the end he gave up - which I still feel sort of guilty about.
They've been together for over a year, and have a lot of common ground (she's a gamer chick and they have a similar troubled past, so they get each others moodswings etc), so it seems to work. From what I can tell, it's mostly due to the fact that they take turns to gripe. Or rather, they're willing to take turns and accommodate each others rants, views on things, validate them and listen to them and not..have the discussion from two povs at the same time. I'm not sure how many in depth discussions they truly have on complex topics, and I wonder in general how much of a place that has in a relationship.
I know that while I have those discussions with my INTJ, most of his mental stimulation, he gets through his work or through his geek friends online, because we have very different interests - he keeps me around as (what he calls) an entertainment center and a way to be exposed to weird, out of this world topics and ideas on those topics. Serious, in dept NT debating, he actually does with the aforementioned NTP or other NTs he encounters or people he meets online. And vice versa - I get frustrated when I go too heavy Fi on hm because he just looks at me like 'I don't know what to do with this!', and so I come and find you guys on here.
That said, he's my go to guy for strategising and organising, and crazy ideas - he wraps them up in a neat little bundle which I get unwrap again and go crazy on again, only to watch him wrap it up again in a different way, and so on and so forth
It's a matter of what you want out of the relationship, I suppose