When I'm angry I try extra hard not to take it out on innocent bystanders. I never say things I don't mean. If I feel really comfortable, I'll just yell but it's really more bark than bite. I just have to get it out harmlessly like that and process so I can settle down.
The angrier, moodier, more tired and stressed I get -- the more of a funk -- the more effort I exert to control my internal Fi storm. So when I'm utterly exhausted I just get very quiet and still try to be polite, which often equals a weak smile or small nod.
Honestly, moody people annoy me. Why? "Not my problem".
I think it's the small mean side of people that enjoys bringing other people down. If you're miserable, you must make other people miserable and make your problem their problem. Instead of dealing with the root of your problem. I despise smallness in people and I try very hard not to succumb to it. If I did not cause your moodiness, I don't think I should have to put up with your attitude. I think that's fair.
I get annoyed a lot, but really angry?
Sure, I've gotten enraged before to the point of shaking and almost losing control. I know what it means when people say, "I was so angry I blacked out". These were generally because of situations where I was harassed (i.e street harassment) or felt victimized and honestly just wanted to beat the shit out of the perpetrator(s).
What helps for me is the angrier I get, the more verbal and direct. Everything gets put out there. I just explain to the quick how I feel and why and what the other person's behavior/actions/speech has made me feel and how I assess the situation.
When you've done wrong, there's very little you can do and say to backtrack when faced with the blunt truth. And I don't demand apologies or name call, I stick to the "facts" or rather my personal truth and the truth of the situation. My goal is to feel liberated and free and say my peace. That's it.
Most people are surprised they've gotten called out and either a discussion ensues or the person listens, acknowledges, and/or apologises.
In other words, Te to the rescue!
After that, I feel so much better.
*edit*
Yes! Like LadyJaye, I am sooooooo much mellower and even-keeled these days. I'm much less self-deceptive and more direct (though still have lots of work to do).
My 'locus of control' is on me and my immediate environment and what I am capable and responsible for doing. I am empowered and I do not in general feel like a victim or put upon by the world. Makes a HUGE difference in your mood and how you perceive and react to everyday interactions. In other words, I'm much less emotionally reactive or moody.