Victor,
You come one here speaking of spirituality (which is really the difference you describe when you talk of 'true self' and 'ideal self'), which seems very noble, until you realize that your desire to enlighten the masses here is really driven by your ego's need for admiration, or, in this case, martyrdom (which is itself a form of admiration).
Think about that for a moment.
[MENTION=6466]nebbykoo[/MENTION] : Wow that is really personal and presumptuous. Where do you get off saying stuff like that?
I think [MENTION=3325]Victor[/MENTION] has some really interesting perspectives to share. I just wish he would be willing to actually discuss them, as people typically would on a forum, since that is usually the purpose of posting them to a forum.
From what I've observed, it looks to me like this is the typical pattern:
- Victor posts a statement that looks like a proclamation about underlying meanings and intentions
- People challenge those statements and proclamations with their own opinions (the same as they would challenge statements made by others here, as this is a forum for the purpose of discussing things)
- Victor does not address the challenging statements or discuss them, but instead posts the same proclamation in different words
- People challenge them again
- Victor gets upset and feels victimized
- People recognize this pattern and respond in one of a number of ways:
a) ignore anything Victor posts since it seems pointless to respond,
b) make fun of him,
c) tell him to start another thread instead and stop derailing the topic at hand,
d) agree with him, since it seems to be the only way to get a response from him that doesn't involve him feeling victimized or "making it about him instead of the issue", or
d) empathize with him and stick up for him.
Victor, it seems to me like your experience here would be more enjoyable (for you and for everyone else) if you would be more willing to discuss your opinions with people who disagree, and expand on them and explain them more, rather than just declaring them from the soapbox and getting upset when people challenge you. It would make your contributions more interesting to everyone else, too.
What do you think?