Yes, women are unconscious of why they wear makeup. In fact we only have to read below to see women have all kinds of flattering rationalisations as to why they wear makeup.
And mimicking arousal to fool the male is not only not very flattering, but it must also be kept a secret from the male, lest he become angry at being manipulated.
It's plain here that women not only want and need to hide the truth, they want to hide it from themselves.
Also, I love a good show, and make-up is all about putting on a show.
I'm with you dear Marmie, I like to put on a show. So sometimes, on Sunday morning, at the Famers' Market I get the kids' makeup artist to put makeup on my face.
It does get me more attention, and it gives me the role of a clown (and by the way, my clown name is Minsky). The makeup allows me to do all the silly things I think of but am usually too sensible to do.
Would you care to stroll through the Farmers' Market with Minsky on Sunday morning, dear Marmie? How would you feel?
we don't exactly love our true selves, and further more, believe that our true selves are utterly unlovable.
pain of knowing we are utterly unlovable
It's plain here that women not only want and need to hide the truth, they want to hide it from themselves.
I think alot of people wear makeup just because they think it's the thing to do, it makes them look better, or that they are supposed to. I don't think alot of people go much deeper than that.....
This is very sad because it is group bullying and I ask you to stop.
Please! When a woman becomes genuinely aroused her eyelids become engorged and turn purple, here cheeks become flushed and turn pink, and her lips become engorged and turn red.
So to mimic arousal women wear purple eyelid makeup, and rouge to colour the cheeks pink, and lipstick to colour the lips red.
The purpose of mimicking arousal is to arouse the male. For when the male is aroused, he can't think straight and is susceptible to manipulation and suggestion by a woman who is not aroused, but only mimicking arousal, and so can think straight, and so has the advantage over the male.
All is fair, they tell me, in love and war.
Of course it is not just make-up, we are affected at our deepest levels by brands, for brands tell us that they can take us from our real self to our ideal self. In fact brands are a form of secular religion.
But notice, no matter how many brands we buy we never reach our ideal self, and of course they tell us the only solution is to buy more brands.
And although they are selling us brands, we are the ones who are branded. Our psyches are branded. We are like cattle with a brand on our rump. And in fact some of us even put a tramp stamp, a tattoo, on our rump just to show how docile we are.
For crying out loud, everyone, he's talking about personae. In other words, our MBTI types are not representatives of our actual selves, but brands of persona makeup that we wear in order to induce reactions from others, our motivations for which we're not even aware of most of the time.
I happen to agree with him. Many, if not most of us are here because we want to find the perfect persona, that perfect brand of makeup, that will make others finally love and respect us, rather than face the cruel reality that we don't exactly love our true selves, and further more, believe that our true selves are utterly unlovable.
I'm not sure you should be speaking for "many or most of us" here.
Yes, the path you describe is an obvious typical route that we all explore at some point in our lives, to find ourselves, but I think a lot of people are just here to socialize, honestly. Despite our name, the focus of this site hasn't really been typology for some time now.
Yes, that is one use for cosmetics; but you conveniently ignore the more aesthetic uses. Women who wear makeup to work, for example, are not thinking about sexual conquest in the least, and in fact it is counterproductive to the workplace environment.
I also think it's humorous that any male would admit to being unable to maintain self-control simply because a woman is wearing makeup. It seems like a tenuous domination at best.
I would agree that commercialism does try to comprise the individual as an assortment of brands, in order to instill product loyalty and continue the flow of cash from consumer to provider. However, it doesn't mean that the consumer is receiving no benefit whatsoever from the purchases they make; it just means that identity primarily needs to reside in the self and not in the brands of one's purchases.
Still, we seem to focus pretty heavily on those four little letters under our names. It sort of goes to why I have noticed, and been guilty of, willing to ascribe different personality traits to different people based on their MBTI type. His point is no more than this habit being just like someone perceiving a woman as more attractive because of her makeup, even though that makeup is specifically designed to enhance signals of sexual arousal or neoteny in order to induce that effect in the perceiver. We simply think that the person is "prettier." I think that this is like the N bias, for example, where people assume that they must be intuitives because they're smart, and sensors are of course stupid.
What Victor's been warning about is that we oftentimes begin to believe that we are the persona, we are the mask, or we are diminished without it. This is just as tragic as a woman who does not perceive herself to be beautiful without makeup on. The truth is that the beauty comes from the self, entirely unadorned, and that love is beauty and shame ugliness. Makeup can mask the cruel woman behind an artificially alluring mask, and our becoming accustomed to that mask can desensitize us to the actual beauty softly radiating from one who is physically homelier. We do the same sorts of things with type, I believe.
It's nice that many community members have gone past this, but I think the greater point still stands - it's the struggling with the masks that brought us here in the first place. I think Victor just considered it interesting that the discussion had such a clear surface parallel. Seems like everyone's talking past one another.
It's a sad rule of our society that particularly attractive women get more favors from those around them than do other women. Our current cultural paradigm conflates neoteny and sexual arousal with feminine beauty; therefore, things that enhance these sorts of things will be to women's advantage. Of course, this has its limits - the line between professional and inappropriate is similar to that between sexy and slutty.
So women may not be gearing for sexual conquest, but they sure as hell want to stand out, or at least have a high enough post on the attractiveness totem pole.
Just out of curiosity, where is the humor in this?
Product loyalty is an irrational manipulation of a person's identity, with only ephemeral benefits, if best (like a feeling of trustworthiness). This is the part of capitalism that Marxist and other critics call exploitation - whereby producers do not seek to satisfy consumer needs, but to create greater levels of demand by making the consumer feel unworthy or incomplete without a given product, which has little to no real value. It's through the manipulation of semiotics and how they relate to psychological processes that producers profit at consumer expense.
The identity maybe ought to reside within the self, but American society as it currently stands does its very best to teach children otherwise.
Our actual self, plus a brand, gives us our ideal self.
So brands serve the purpose of mediating between our real self and our ideal self.
So brands diss our real self and valorise our ideal self.
So brands poison us at our very core, and impose from the outside a phoney ideal self.
It's true, and we all know it, that beauty comes from within. And we know that the imposition of beauty from the outside is an imposture.
Yes, women are unconscious of why they wear makeup. In fact we only have to read below to see women have all kinds of flattering rationalisations as to why they wear makeup.
And mimicking arousal to fool the male is not only not very flattering, but it must also be kept a secret from the male, lest he become angry at being manipulated.
It's plain here that women not only want and need to hide the truth, they want to hide it from themselves.
Of course it is not just make-up, we are affected at our deepest levels by brands, for brands tell us that they can take us from our real self to our ideal self. In fact brands are a form of secular religion.
But notice, no matter how many brands we buy we never reach our ideal self, and of course they tell us the only solution is to buy more brands.
Victor, your ideas are not controversial, and they are not the reason for your perceived bullying. What? Makeup is a facade of some sort? Don't let that opinion out, the public isn't ready for it!!!1!