0
011235813
Guest
Armando Molina on 7s in love, from Our Ways.
Have at it, [MENTION=17131]Chanaynay[/MENTION].
7SE characters live absorbed in their own expectations and enthused by a thousand exciting activities, and they want to do what they like just as much in company as when alone. Their extrinsic multipolar focus and typical fear of concentrating on a single course of action ... induce them to keep all their options open ... They like to meet many charming persons rather than achieve stability with one who, no matter how marvelous, may end up boring them; they desire to lead exciting adventures in which neither of the two becomes dependent.
More sensual than sexual or passionate, they enter into romantic relationships seeking to share and enjoy what each of the two has of the extraordinary; but they limit their commitment and avoid binding themselves. They tend to have sundry relations during their lives, always searching for self-sufficient lovers who complement their own interests and enthusiasms ... and who can enjoy [the world] with them without imposing restrictions ... If that is not possible, they prefer a friendship, well-defined to provide contact enough to sustain interest, but not so much of it to produce boredom or become stifling. The manner of relating is exciting and allows them to avoid having to discuss the unpleasant aspects of life.
Their fear of commitment often clothes itself in irrational fantasies, like feeling locked in a jail or hospital where the lack of freedom is complete; but once in love and committed, they are able to work hard to build a common future, which they are sure will be splendid. Meanwhile, they do not want either of the two to miss a single one of the many social, intellectual and aesthetic possibilities the world presents. Engaging in so many activities tends not to leave enough time for cultivating an authentic intimacy. They superficialize romantic relationships into doing things together and talking about interesting subjects; if a problem arises, they pack their agendas so no time exists to talk about it ...
They need a lover to support their self-esteem ... but they feel a tremendous need for independence ... If a lover attempts to control or manipulate them, they discover it instantly and revel by withdrawing and becoming evasive or by distracting the other's attention, but rarely by confronting ...
Flirty, they enjoy exerting their seductiveness because it confirms they are still sexually attractive. They allow themselves occasional infidelities without remorse, but try to spread these out so that none becomes a passion that induces them to abandon their lover. Conversely, if bored with a lover, rather than breaking the relationship off cleanly, they prefer gradually becoming so obvious in their infidelity that their lover splits.
Very playful, they know how to keep the illusion of love alive with manifold activities, intellectual stimulation and refined sex. They can easily replace negative emotions with something more enjoyable; and they have a splendid ability to elevate the tone of a weakened relation by focusing it on more brilliant things, supplying new interests to share, burying old conflicts, and starting over again. Since they like to help, they may devote time and effort to pep up a sad or depressed lover by attempting to infuse him or her with their optimism ...
Yet, they cannot deal with ... dependence ... if their lovers become too problematic and efforts to straighten them out do not yield fruit before too long, they weep over the relationship if it was good and go away. In a short time they recover their optimism ... it does not take them very long to find another love.
Have at it, [MENTION=17131]Chanaynay[/MENTION].
7SE characters live absorbed in their own expectations and enthused by a thousand exciting activities, and they want to do what they like just as much in company as when alone. Their extrinsic multipolar focus and typical fear of concentrating on a single course of action ... induce them to keep all their options open ... They like to meet many charming persons rather than achieve stability with one who, no matter how marvelous, may end up boring them; they desire to lead exciting adventures in which neither of the two becomes dependent.
More sensual than sexual or passionate, they enter into romantic relationships seeking to share and enjoy what each of the two has of the extraordinary; but they limit their commitment and avoid binding themselves. They tend to have sundry relations during their lives, always searching for self-sufficient lovers who complement their own interests and enthusiasms ... and who can enjoy [the world] with them without imposing restrictions ... If that is not possible, they prefer a friendship, well-defined to provide contact enough to sustain interest, but not so much of it to produce boredom or become stifling. The manner of relating is exciting and allows them to avoid having to discuss the unpleasant aspects of life.
Their fear of commitment often clothes itself in irrational fantasies, like feeling locked in a jail or hospital where the lack of freedom is complete; but once in love and committed, they are able to work hard to build a common future, which they are sure will be splendid. Meanwhile, they do not want either of the two to miss a single one of the many social, intellectual and aesthetic possibilities the world presents. Engaging in so many activities tends not to leave enough time for cultivating an authentic intimacy. They superficialize romantic relationships into doing things together and talking about interesting subjects; if a problem arises, they pack their agendas so no time exists to talk about it ...
They need a lover to support their self-esteem ... but they feel a tremendous need for independence ... If a lover attempts to control or manipulate them, they discover it instantly and revel by withdrawing and becoming evasive or by distracting the other's attention, but rarely by confronting ...
Flirty, they enjoy exerting their seductiveness because it confirms they are still sexually attractive. They allow themselves occasional infidelities without remorse, but try to spread these out so that none becomes a passion that induces them to abandon their lover. Conversely, if bored with a lover, rather than breaking the relationship off cleanly, they prefer gradually becoming so obvious in their infidelity that their lover splits.
Very playful, they know how to keep the illusion of love alive with manifold activities, intellectual stimulation and refined sex. They can easily replace negative emotions with something more enjoyable; and they have a splendid ability to elevate the tone of a weakened relation by focusing it on more brilliant things, supplying new interests to share, burying old conflicts, and starting over again. Since they like to help, they may devote time and effort to pep up a sad or depressed lover by attempting to infuse him or her with their optimism ...
Yet, they cannot deal with ... dependence ... if their lovers become too problematic and efforts to straighten them out do not yield fruit before too long, they weep over the relationship if it was good and go away. In a short time they recover their optimism ... it does not take them very long to find another love.