I just don't like this assumption that Ss don't adapt to Ns. It makes it seem like being an S is easy and oh, anybody can be an S, but being an intuitive is hard.
I feel like this is a very important point... there is some degree of "specialness" that has been appointed to N (I assume largely by Ns on the internet who have previously felt "weird" and alone, and are embracing N as a justification for weirdness and the separation they feel). But the distance Ns may feel from reality is an artifact of their most-used thinking processes, not a real separation, and it would be folly to assume that mental distance that results from N preference is more significant than other factors that can make us feel separate from others.
I think it is also somewhat fair to say that since Ns essentially
create our own mind-distance, we are largely responsible for overcoming that. Or, at least, we will always be subject to the whims of the external if we do not endeavor to overcome that distance ourselves.
they will obtusely refer to statistics that show the majority of the population to be S (without, you know, differentiating between any of the S types, even though that category encompasses a very wide spectrum of different personalities)
Yes, I disagree with this as well. Regardless of what "official" statistics say, from looking at people I interact with in life and doing my best to guesstimate their types, I really do not see that much of a disparity between numbers of Ss and Ns. I think they are fairly equal, honestly. And of course certain types will gravitate towards certain areas and certain intellectual fields. And as you mention, there are major differences between Si dom, Se dom, and S aux types.
That's why I said earlier in the thread that people who think they're N erroneously tag others who agree/get along with/"communicate like" them as Ns.
Probably frequently, especially online. It can even happen if you are certain you are N. There is no question in my mind that I am an ENFP, but I mistook my ESFJ significant other for a fellow ENxP when I first met him, because of his outgoing energy and rapid flight of conversation. Half a year later it is very clear (to both of us) that he is an SJ.
this whole thread (and really, any of the others having to do with S/N, since it is far and away the poorest understood of the dichotomies) is a bunch of bullshit.
When I skim this thread what I see is a significant number of people who
do feel like there is a communication difference, as well as significant realizations taking place regarding other factors involved in that communication difference. There has been little judgment implicit in the conversation - and no outright bias; the questions posed are aimed to improve communication, not to widen a gap that is theoretical to begin with (and, without doubt, replete with people who have mistyped themselves). I agree with [MENTION=14915]Owfin[/MENTION]'s point - and I agree that there are some Ns who think of themselves as pretty little hurt unicorns and readily engage difference to elevate their perceived self-worth.
Still, I think it is better to
have this conversation take place, and to uncover false conceptions about Perception and communication as the discussion proceeds, as opposed to calling the whole thing bullshit and having people continue to snowball their individual misperceptions into concrete ways of thinking since we shy away from discussing it in the open, ill-conceived biases and all. As long as we have voices of reason - yourself included - to keep the discussion from veering into artificial bigotry, I think truth will surface through the fog.