If you can't offer anyone anything then why should they take any interest in you?
I really do like how INFJs are good at helping their partners relate to and feel OK with their emotions. But there's a practical, day-to-day side to a relationship as well, which is equally important if you want to live with someone...
First, I was mostly playing around with [MENTION=4109]entropie[/MENTION]. I tend to tease people when I sort of like them.
However, in a way I see this as an opportunity to talk about what real life interaction with at least one INFJ is like. The things I am aboout to say actually have nothing to do with anyone on this forum personally, except as an address to your response and also as a glance inside an INFJ. First, I can't prove my type. I can give it credentials by saying that two psychologists have labeled me as such as well as several tests. The only other candidate is INTJ and since my best friends are an INTJ, an ISTP, ISTJ, INFP, ENTP and an ENFJ, I have definitely taken mental notes and realized they all have strengths that I lack. I am none of those. Although, I wouldn't mind it if I were. I see very positive attributes in all of them.
I think that forming a relationship based on someone's "offer" could be formula for disaster because the very root of it comes from a seat of self-absorption and superficiality. We should not have to offer anything but should be able to freely and naturally share from the depths of ourselves. It should be a side effect, not an effort.
In my own eyes I truly do offer...nothing, make no promises. Here I am, just as I am, hang out with me if you want, and if you don't, go your way and be content, no ill will, but whoever happens to cross my path, whoever chooses to be in my company is treated with respect and highly valued as an individual. It's not an offer, it's a reality. I am a peaceful and accepting person, but I am also constantly being sought after, so unless you are my own offspring or flesh and blood, don't expect to be my one and only. I have many friends, but few who are in my inner circle. And that's not going to change. I've had at least two people walk out of my life because I couldn't "let them in."
And although I am peaceful, forgiving and open-minded, when it comes to certain things I am aggressive. I'm aggressive about maintaining balance, about always seeking the higher good, about seeing the big picture and protecting those in my charge. I'm aggressive about being allowed to create and following my purpose in life. I'm agressive about finding quiet time. These are not things I offer. These are things I am. I freely share from who I am. I live and love naturally. I don't feel the need to win other people's approval, nor do I deliberately say hurtful, negative things, because I have no need to.