KDude
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And to further the idea that this thread is totally all about me. (ugh) I will relate this funny INFP conversation from earlier today via texts between me and my best friend (INFP).
INFP: yay! I am going out with my dad for lunch today!
ME: awesome! have a great time
INFP: except we are going for indian food.
ME: why sad face? you love indian food.
INFP: yeah but I REALLY wanted to go get some japanese food, but he picked the indian restaurant out of the 3 ideas I gave him.
I had to chuckle because I totally see why she did what she did, but I also see how annoying we are when we do this. I know for a fact that if she had said, gee Dad I would love Japanese food! He would cheerfully agree and go there instead.
I think we should ship ourselves one way to the planet Saturn for a life of hugs and ponies and not much else.
And now my Fi pond is 100% empty and I need to go restock it.
Heh. Yeah, I don't exactly identify with being uncommunicative on that level. My parents always told me I could be persuasive if I wanted to. If I wanted to eat Japanese, I would try to make it sound appealing. If no one's convinced, that'd be OK, but I've never been one to not make a suggestion (or two). Especially with closer friends or family. There's even more familiarity there. I know where I stand with people, and the world is not going to end if I have an opinion. That's one idea I'd encourage anyone to understand. It's not the end of the world. And you don't have to bother projecting that level of sensitivity on to others either. Half of the time, they don't care.
That all said, it's different the further from "home" I get. I'm more diplomatic. If a majority wanted Indian food, I'm not going to bring the atmosphere down by insisting on something else. I like Indian anyways. It's another good choice, out of many. I am Ne, after all.. j/k
As for deeper opinions, there's a lot of personal stuff I hold back, but I'd rather not let things develop like some of the relationship examples INTPness mentioned. And in more negative situations, I don't mind a fight if it's necessary. It sucks, but fights have different degrees of "sucktitude", so sometimes it's best to get things out of the way. I know all about the "crack in the dam", but for whatever reason, I think it's best to try to nip things in the bud far before that kind of explosion piles up. There's always little signs that something is going to get worse if I don't do something about it, and I feel partly responsible if I don't help (myself and others) get past it. As far as I'm concerned, that's the Fi thing to do. I can recall situations in my teens where I was still too far on the hesitant side, but I would chalk it up more to shyness.