cacaia
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Hi, all you forum Js!
So, I am wondering this about myself....I'm not sure whether I am P or J, and this question might (or might not) help me figure things out a bit more.
I am disorganized...to a certain extent. But I absolutely HATE seeing clothes, paper, etc on the floor, and the sink piled up with dishes.
My husband is DEFINITELY a P. He doesn't mind living in a pigsty. He can never find his things, and when he gets things for a project, he rarely puts them back where they belong.
I can never find my things either, but I have a system (I leave things in a certain spot, and if it's not in that certain spot, I freak out).
But back to the dishes for a minute. My husband is in charge of the dishes. I gently nudge him to load the dishwasher, and to clear the table after diner. He walks away from the table, leaving everything there, claiming he needs a little break. This drives me nuts.
He also leaves a mountain of dishes all over the sink, and I nudge and nudge, then I beg, then I downright nag him about cleaning the damn dishes until it drives HIM crazy.
If I ask or tell my kids or husband to do chores, and if they ignore me, it makes me livid. I never thought of this as J- ness before, and maybe it isn't? Not sure.
One thing I just realized, though. If I can't somehow control the outcome of something, it makes me depressed or angry....so.
Are these J traits????? or does this have nothing to do with MBTI?
Thanks in advance!
So, I am wondering this about myself....I'm not sure whether I am P or J, and this question might (or might not) help me figure things out a bit more.
I am disorganized...to a certain extent. But I absolutely HATE seeing clothes, paper, etc on the floor, and the sink piled up with dishes.
My husband is DEFINITELY a P. He doesn't mind living in a pigsty. He can never find his things, and when he gets things for a project, he rarely puts them back where they belong.
I can never find my things either, but I have a system (I leave things in a certain spot, and if it's not in that certain spot, I freak out).
But back to the dishes for a minute. My husband is in charge of the dishes. I gently nudge him to load the dishwasher, and to clear the table after diner. He walks away from the table, leaving everything there, claiming he needs a little break. This drives me nuts.
He also leaves a mountain of dishes all over the sink, and I nudge and nudge, then I beg, then I downright nag him about cleaning the damn dishes until it drives HIM crazy.
If I ask or tell my kids or husband to do chores, and if they ignore me, it makes me livid. I never thought of this as J- ness before, and maybe it isn't? Not sure.
One thing I just realized, though. If I can't somehow control the outcome of something, it makes me depressed or angry....so.
Are these J traits????? or does this have nothing to do with MBTI?
Thanks in advance!