creativeRhino
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- Sep 30, 2007
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- INTJ
I'm an oldie female intj- who has been married but never had kids and I've got a few INTJ friends and most have not had kids, or if they do it is really thoroughly planned or really a "surprise" - not much in between.
I'm a "nerdy girl" not a "girly girl" as one of my friends puts it so well...
When I was young, my biggest fear was getting pregnant when I wasn't ready. Then marriage one failed without having kids, and then in marriage 2 a prior vasectomy didn't get a successful reversal. Frankly I was relieved. I am very nervous around babies. I really even had trouble with my sister's kids until they were 8+ years old. My niece is in her teens and we get along really really well now on lots of levels.
2 other INTJ females I know have the same ambivalence (wanting them to some degree in theory but terrified of practice) so I think it could be something INTJs are prone to having as a trait/temperament thing. I'm sure that if they had kids they'd make great mothers, but maybe not fit the idea of "typical" or "ideal" mothers - that's what my 2nd husband said about the sort of mother I'd have been.
I'm a "nerdy girl" not a "girly girl" as one of my friends puts it so well...
When I was young, my biggest fear was getting pregnant when I wasn't ready. Then marriage one failed without having kids, and then in marriage 2 a prior vasectomy didn't get a successful reversal. Frankly I was relieved. I am very nervous around babies. I really even had trouble with my sister's kids until they were 8+ years old. My niece is in her teens and we get along really really well now on lots of levels.
2 other INTJ females I know have the same ambivalence (wanting them to some degree in theory but terrified of practice) so I think it could be something INTJs are prone to having as a trait/temperament thing. I'm sure that if they had kids they'd make great mothers, but maybe not fit the idea of "typical" or "ideal" mothers - that's what my 2nd husband said about the sort of mother I'd have been.