I can relate to your original post almost entirely. I am just going through the same as well...some major life changes too. Hanging around NFPs has allowed me to view the world with more wonder and seek out new experiences.
I just figured it was a part of growing up, maturing, a balancing out of the preferences.
How old are you may I ask?
I am 23.
See, I knew this wasn't uncommon. Maybe it's got something to do with how strong the preference for T is.
I have noticed that some INTJs are quite cold and distant, while others aren't.
Despite being T's. Taking sides, being forceful, warm and passionate are logically motivated things that I do.
Being strictly neutral at all times and not grabbing a piece of the pie with all your charms and force is less effective, at least for me.
Now for some
off topic delight.
To
Zarathustra...
I do think that the fact we both view each other as STJs is due to the fact that we have differing opinions and are unwilling to budge because of Enneagram type 8 persuasion.
We both know that we are both a bit antagonistic when it comes to persuasion.
Now, our mutual reaction to that would be digging our heels in even more, sticking to our guns.
This might seem a bit unimaginative and strict, not to mention its likeness to the enforcer mentality.
You
are a type 8, correct?
I guess you have heard that having two NTJ type 8's (with differing opinions) in the same room usually means war.
It takes out the worst in both.
I can assure you, though, that if there is anything i'm certain of, it is that I am Ni-dominant, and in the light of recent pondering, I do not question this about you, either, even if I have had my doubts.
I'll try to tolerate you better in the future.
This happened when I first encountered Peguy, as well. Now there is no problem at all.
Maybe getting to know each other better would make things run more smoothly.
Also, the language thing is total bs.
My funny grammar is just the way I talk and write, because it is
my style.
I do the same with Swedish, and it's not standard there, either.
Used to have a serious case of "the Queen's English" when I was younger.
Including British English spelling. Suffice to say, I didn't like it.
So I sort of developed my own mix of everything that I like.
Although, i'd say that I am closer to American English than British.
Maybe one could classify this as being creative or at least expressive.
Hopefully a bit original, as well, even if I really doubt that.
Uncommon would perhaps be a better word for it.
I can further assure you that my vocabulary is, even by native standard, quite good.
It took a while for me to learn mundane stuff, like "laundry detergent" etc, but I have not had a problem with even the most advanced English since I was about 13.
You could say that I have grown up with the language and used it every day for at least a few hours since I was a few years old.
Computer games, movies, series, books, the internet.
For my dearest
Nicodemus...
My posts may have a strange formatting for you if you have a smaller screen than I do, or if your screen resolution is lower than mine.
I guess we will both have to live with it.
How do you manage to care about the aesthetics in forum posts, anyway?