mwv6r
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I know this is a very particular topic but I'm curious to know the experiences of other INFJs during pregnancy, or observations on any pregnant INFJs you may have known.
I recently found out I am pregnant, which is very good news after quite a few months of trying to conceive.
But ever since finding out, I've found myself overwhelmed by anxiety. I'm kind of embarrassed by how anxious and worried and not myself I've been feeling -- frequent worry about miscarriage, the worst insomnia of my life and then worry that my insomnia is hurting the baby, the sense that time is crawling and doubting my ability to make it through a full nine months of this! I'm hesitant to share my feelings with many people because I don't want to seem ungrateful for the pregnancy when I know many people have difficulty conceiving. I do want children very much, I'm just wishing I could fast forward through the pregnancy part! Also so many women I've known seemed to love being pregnant and were able to relax and enjoy the ride instead of thinking about everything that could go wrong....
The first few days after I found out I was pregnant I spent hours each evening devouring every pregnancy article I could find on the internet, which was maybe my Introverted Intuitive (Ni) way of trying to figure out the big picture of the situation. But I realized pretty quickly that this tendency was only making my anxiety worse (there are a lot of articles out there about every little thing that can go wrong!) and so I forced myself to stop the constant research. In the past, during stressful periods of my life I've temporarily been on anti-anxiety and sleeping medications, although that is of course out of the question now. So I've been doing my best to get by with yoga and relaxation techniques...
Anyway, it occurred to me today that my anxiety could be related to Extroverted Sensing (Se) being in the inferior position for INFJs. Maybe I'm "in the grip" of my inferior function during the very physical experience of being pregnant, which I imagine is best characterized by Se out of the four functions.
Anyway, just curious for anyone else's thoughts, insights, advice on the subject...
I recently found out I am pregnant, which is very good news after quite a few months of trying to conceive.
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The first few days after I found out I was pregnant I spent hours each evening devouring every pregnancy article I could find on the internet, which was maybe my Introverted Intuitive (Ni) way of trying to figure out the big picture of the situation. But I realized pretty quickly that this tendency was only making my anxiety worse (there are a lot of articles out there about every little thing that can go wrong!) and so I forced myself to stop the constant research. In the past, during stressful periods of my life I've temporarily been on anti-anxiety and sleeping medications, although that is of course out of the question now. So I've been doing my best to get by with yoga and relaxation techniques...
Anyway, it occurred to me today that my anxiety could be related to Extroverted Sensing (Se) being in the inferior position for INFJs. Maybe I'm "in the grip" of my inferior function during the very physical experience of being pregnant, which I imagine is best characterized by Se out of the four functions.
Anyway, just curious for anyone else's thoughts, insights, advice on the subject...