I'm an INTP female and my boyfriend is an INFJ male. Our relationship is great in most regards and we don't have a lot of issues. However, one problem I struggle to deal with, and also struggle to discuss with him (because I'm not really sure if it's a 'me-problem' or an 'us-problem') is that he often gets very excited if/when he finds a new piece of information or learns about something new (about diet, exercise, psychology, etc basically anything). He instantly gets super excited to the point of "This will change the world!" and expects me to jump up and down with him every time. Now, the excitement usually only lasts for a few days, but I can tell he gets annoyed or hurt when I'm not as excited as he is. Thing is, it's not natural for me to be as intense as he wants me to be about those things, maybe also because I don't see the value of the information as much as he does. But I do try to be excited with him, it just exhausts me to force that intensity that he wants (my excitement just don't express itself like that, typical INTP). In comparison he rarely express excitement at all about things I share with him, usually there's a "That's great honey" and then he continues what he was doing or starts another conversation.
I'm just wondering how INFJs usually handle this when people don't match their amazement and/or passion for a topic? It would be really nice if I could give him the positive feedback and support I know he wants, and still express and have him understand my lack of equally expressed excitement. I don't want to reevaluate my life and world every time he is excited about something new, but as an INFJ he's constantly searching for some sort of recipe for the perfection of humanity.
My question is, can some INFJ males please tell me a bit about how they function in a relationship? What you want and need from your partner and what you tend to give back? If you have experience with being in a relationship with an INTP and what that experience is? What's your thoughts on this problem?
I'm just wondering how INFJs usually handle this when people don't match their amazement and/or passion for a topic? It would be really nice if I could give him the positive feedback and support I know he wants, and still express and have him understand my lack of equally expressed excitement. I don't want to reevaluate my life and world every time he is excited about something new, but as an INFJ he's constantly searching for some sort of recipe for the perfection of humanity.
My question is, can some INFJ males please tell me a bit about how they function in a relationship? What you want and need from your partner and what you tend to give back? If you have experience with being in a relationship with an INTP and what that experience is? What's your thoughts on this problem?