ChrisC99
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Hi everyone - and happy early holidays!
I wondered if you could all help me decide what type my mother and brother might be?
My mother is outgoing, loud, opinionated, and - doesn't have a 'filter'! Genuinely cares about everyone she meets yet gets tired of or irritated with people too, a natural leader who tends to take command of every situation until people's unkind behavior starts to bother her, then pulls away from it. Sensitive and gets offended easily, a goofball who loves to laugh and make people laugh, isn't afraid to be silly, doesn't care about conventions and marches to the beat of her own drum, whatever's best for the person. I'm thinking either ENFP or ESFP; she's a creative thinker who likes coming up with her own unique ideas and solutions for everything, which makes me think intuitor. But then, she's also all about memories of people and how they influence her views going forward, and REALLY obsessive about arranging things around the house, the way her surroundings look and the way people around her act make her 'feel'; for example, she'll actually move if she doesn't like her neighbors lol. I'm pretty much an ENFP without a shadow of a doubt, and I couldn't care less about what my surroundings look like or who lives next to me - so I feel like that might be more sensor territory? She also isn't really able to 'detach' at times in the way that I tend to, which I know is more an Ne-dom characteristic. I always was bad at telling sensors and intuitors apart.
Now, I know for a fact that the bro on the other hand is an introvert and a feeler - no real question there. But on the other two, I don't know. He's the pretty classic OCD type, likes to know that doors are locked and shoes placed the way he likes and will freak out if they're not - likes routines, is early for EVERYTHING (of course keep in mind this is coming from the perspective of someone who hasn't been on time for anything in my life, haha!). Also a bit of a rule-thumper. That kind of penchant for schedules and structure makes me think judger. But he's quiet in public, doesn't like having a large circle or interacting with people outside the family when he doesn't have to, where I hear even introverted judgers are usually more outgoing and interactive. Around the family where he feels more comfortable he's also more loud and silly, which seems more perceiver-like. Still doesn't like unpredicted turns of events though. He's also sensitive, but unlike my mother will withdraw to be alone and hold quiet grudges when angry instead of talking about them. Now again, when it comes to sensors versus intuitors I'm still utterly terrible with that dichotomy - but he seems to focus on things in a more concrete way the way sensors do; for example, if you gave him instructions for a recipe he'd fuss over making sure every detail of the cook time and the measurements was accurate (and might check repeatedly to make sure and have a mini panic attack if they weren't actually!), where I've read that intuitors are more about the bottom line ('Who cares about the recipe if it still turns out the same?') He's also, like my mother but to an even greater extent, very attached to memories - he'll literally base entire aspects of his lifestyle on something that happened with or was said by one person, twenty years in the past; essentially he'll take individual experiences and use them to paint with a his expectations of everyone with a broad brush based on them, something else I've heard is very much a sensor tendency. But, he's also very much in his own head when it comes to ideas about the world, his views are entirely based on very personal and often creative beliefs and values, where I thought sensors were more grounded in that their views were always based in things around them rather than inside. Do I have that wrong?
Thanks y'all! This should be fun
I wondered if you could all help me decide what type my mother and brother might be?
My mother is outgoing, loud, opinionated, and - doesn't have a 'filter'! Genuinely cares about everyone she meets yet gets tired of or irritated with people too, a natural leader who tends to take command of every situation until people's unkind behavior starts to bother her, then pulls away from it. Sensitive and gets offended easily, a goofball who loves to laugh and make people laugh, isn't afraid to be silly, doesn't care about conventions and marches to the beat of her own drum, whatever's best for the person. I'm thinking either ENFP or ESFP; she's a creative thinker who likes coming up with her own unique ideas and solutions for everything, which makes me think intuitor. But then, she's also all about memories of people and how they influence her views going forward, and REALLY obsessive about arranging things around the house, the way her surroundings look and the way people around her act make her 'feel'; for example, she'll actually move if she doesn't like her neighbors lol. I'm pretty much an ENFP without a shadow of a doubt, and I couldn't care less about what my surroundings look like or who lives next to me - so I feel like that might be more sensor territory? She also isn't really able to 'detach' at times in the way that I tend to, which I know is more an Ne-dom characteristic. I always was bad at telling sensors and intuitors apart.
Now, I know for a fact that the bro on the other hand is an introvert and a feeler - no real question there. But on the other two, I don't know. He's the pretty classic OCD type, likes to know that doors are locked and shoes placed the way he likes and will freak out if they're not - likes routines, is early for EVERYTHING (of course keep in mind this is coming from the perspective of someone who hasn't been on time for anything in my life, haha!). Also a bit of a rule-thumper. That kind of penchant for schedules and structure makes me think judger. But he's quiet in public, doesn't like having a large circle or interacting with people outside the family when he doesn't have to, where I hear even introverted judgers are usually more outgoing and interactive. Around the family where he feels more comfortable he's also more loud and silly, which seems more perceiver-like. Still doesn't like unpredicted turns of events though. He's also sensitive, but unlike my mother will withdraw to be alone and hold quiet grudges when angry instead of talking about them. Now again, when it comes to sensors versus intuitors I'm still utterly terrible with that dichotomy - but he seems to focus on things in a more concrete way the way sensors do; for example, if you gave him instructions for a recipe he'd fuss over making sure every detail of the cook time and the measurements was accurate (and might check repeatedly to make sure and have a mini panic attack if they weren't actually!), where I've read that intuitors are more about the bottom line ('Who cares about the recipe if it still turns out the same?') He's also, like my mother but to an even greater extent, very attached to memories - he'll literally base entire aspects of his lifestyle on something that happened with or was said by one person, twenty years in the past; essentially he'll take individual experiences and use them to paint with a his expectations of everyone with a broad brush based on them, something else I've heard is very much a sensor tendency. But, he's also very much in his own head when it comes to ideas about the world, his views are entirely based on very personal and often creative beliefs and values, where I thought sensors were more grounded in that their views were always based in things around them rather than inside. Do I have that wrong?
Thanks y'all! This should be fun