I must admit, I only registered your existence about three weeks ago and I'm not that familiar with much of your earlier posts. But, from what I've seen so far, you seem like a mature, smart, funny, open-minded and growth-oriented guy.
Sure, I could deal with you. No problem there, if people are willing to work on things.
You are interesting, just as any other person out there. I'd like to see how your mind works and what makes you tick, so I'd probably date you.
In reality, I don't believe in long distance relationships. Maintaining one is absolutely 100% doable but I'm not convinced that I'd want to do it. Cultural misunderstandings and the language barrier might cause some problems in the long run.
Based on your description in the OP, as to your biggest "flaw" - influencing people. You're able to rationalize it in a sensible way. Your "flaw" might even be useful in a relationship to avoid standstill when you see that something could be pushed towards growth.
Hypothetically, how would you react if you met somebody who is just as capable of pushing people and coming on too strong?
What I'm getting at, since you admit your unsuccessful relationships in the past, do you, maybe subconsciously, feel attracted or even seek out people who are not on your level, so you could influence them and get some kind of gratification from it? However, leaving you unsatisfied because of that.