Maybe I am simplifying cuddling to much. I can cuddle with my 5 year old son. I simply put my arm around him as we lay on the couch. The difference is all in your head.
Picture that your laying in front of the couch and a friend of the opposite sex comes up and lays in front of you. You put your arm around her and watch TV together. That is cuddling, nothing more nothings less. So are you saying that anytime someone of the opposite sex lays next to you you think that something has to happen?
Well I personally wouldn't put my arm around her. I would to a son though.
And exactly, the difference IS all in your head. In my head a certain kind of physical intimacy is reserved to those whom I love. And I mean really love...not the friend kind of love.
I am
not saying something has to happen when two people cuddle with each other. But I choose to take intimacy somewhat seriously. If you kissed every friend of the opposite sex on the mouth that didn't necessarily mean you'd ever have sex with them would it? But by reserving that honor to only one person (or a couple of people if you happen to kiss your kids on the lips like some people do) you are saying "you are special to me". It's about communication really.
Maybe it's my Ti but I see everything intertwined. There is a reason why some people think fucking can be just fucking, and some that say fucking => love and some that love <=> fucking ...etc For some, there doesn't have to be some grand meaning behind certain things and that is ok. I can respect that. But coherence is key, for me. If I'm not coherent I can't expect other people to know what I mean when I mean them.
Kinda like the cheating husband trying to explain to his wife "it didn't mean anything". Sure...it might not have meant anything. But if you are not coherent how can you expect other people to know the difference?
I'm using an exaggeration to convey my point. Don't shoot me lol
Oh and I
was thinking spooning and the like were part of what people meant by cuddling yes.