I am a little hesitant to post this, but...
I meant to ask the OP "Why don't you think you are an INTJ?" Sorry if I didn't word that clearly.
Well, I make sense of the world in an emotional way; through feelings, beliefs and visions. However, I realise that people won't be convinced my way is right through this alone, so make an effort to appeal to T-like arguments when I can. When I typed myself as INTJ, I did so mainly because I was uncomfortable with the descriptions of MBTI INFx types, and I was also very depressed at the time, which made me run away from aspects of my identity that I'm trying to be more positive about now. There is no need to raise old ghosts though.
I also have been trained in debating and academic writing, which probably make me appear more formal and uptight than I would be were we to meet.
I am happy to explain what my beliefs are, but I don't feel very comfortable explaining why I believe what I do to the same extent...at least not on a public forum. But I'll give you a taste:
As for the wedding scenario, in my opinion, seems more Fi, since Fe will usually value harmony over integrity, and even when it disapproves, will probably not judge other people harshly for doing so. And really I find it really difficult to believe that an Fe user will openly disapprove of something "politically correct" without at least any guise of compassion and "it's for the greater good".
I believe it is ultimately in everybody's best interests to express their true feelings, and my worldview, like most radical ones, has a messianic and heroic bent (saving people from their own ignorance, punishing the corrupt/sinful and expelling invaders). So in a way, it isn't that I don't care about other people, but can accept that I and my views help to make me an outcast. I have mixed feelings about loneliness because I'm deathly afraid of "fitting in" and compromising my own special world. But of course it would be nice to share this with somebody.
Political correctness is essentially a form of self-censorship, and is going to lead to misery in the long run. I don't mind if people confront me on here, as long as you stay civil feel free to say what you like to me.
However, an Fi-dom will probably not bother to try to convince other people that their actions are justified (and will probably not cite their decision as evidence in a discussion). So, I'm not getting a Feeler vibe here.
Well, I do sincerely want to help others see what I can - why else would I keep arguing with people here and offline? I suspect an INTJ in my situation would have stopped engaging with others long ago. But the faint hope that somebody might change makes the scuffles worth the trouble to me. I am not a bad person, and ultimately I am just like everybody else here - I want to have a fulfilling life that I can share with someone. The problem is that the the civilisation and culture I belong to is under siege and politically, the world is becoming unstable again. Somebody needs to impose order and protect my people, and what makes me frustrated is that it isn't me there, as I know I could make things right again.
A lot of what needs to be done will involve some tough love. I made an example of my cousin mainly to prove I own my words and also to encourage other family members to speak up. You see I am happy to take the first step if I feel that others will follow (and a couple have, since). In a way I feel torn between my desire to express myself and my views musically, to feel love and enjoy life - and the sense that there may be a need for me to do something decisive to fix greater problems. An ordinary life will not suffice, because I was told from a young age that I'm somebody special and destined for greatness. I would like to achieve some of these things before I'm older and responsible for others, as well.
Phew, that was intense. Enough for one day.