[MENTION=15003]Vilku[/MENTION]
That you for that. I now realize that I need an INFJ in order to help me to sort out my so called, "moral values". If any INFJ on this site wants to help me with this please feel free to PM me. Also, I don't seem to relate to what you say about Fi at all. My moral values are not set in stone at all. I must be ENTP
its funny.. we live, in illusion. we think we are in control, but in the end we only see the half of truth. the other half is that of extro functions, which will never truly give data for the internal functions.. they only filter each other, but never do they combine to break the illusion we all live in. as such, comparison to the opposites seems to be the only possible way to figure out what your not seeing, what you can never see yourself.
and not to mention, once you flip your functions, you lose _everything_ you have processed with the one before that, all is simply obsolete to the new function. until you switch back.
we are in the illusion of seeing whole picture, yet no matter who you are, without someone else with opposing function and well working communication in between, youll never see the whole.
to get your hunt started, i would recommend visiting
http://www.infjs.com/forums to profilize what an infj is like, where you are most likely to find them.. considering how rare they are, my only infj ive met was a psychologist.. (smart one, unliek the typical arrogant psychologist who has got enough of her job) and also i suspect i met one extremely immature infj who thought it was completely justified how someone physically attacked me based on their misperception of me speaking about them when i spoke with a female and laugh. you know, the arrogant self hating people who believe _everyone_ speaks of them when no one even cares enough to acknowledge their presence. the immature fe + se logic is something i hate most when it comes to morals, without honed ni + ti they are more damage than good.
the way i do it: combine all infj's, what they all have in common? their cognitive preferance. and then, step in their shoes: how and where is a person with this preference likely to spend their lives at? not to mention personality distribution is very much not equal, as certain kind of cities and environments for example attract different people. but im certain you can figure out the rest with Ti after profilizing infj's commonalities.
the cooperation internal and external functions do easily give the illusion.. its important for us all to remember we arent whole.
on enfp loop im afraid to look at my Si as it becomes overwhelming as the deep feelings take over, and then the fear of losing control severs the bond. while on infp loop nothing feels as good as pain, i literally lay on my bed listening to the music which evokes the most painful feelings and purposefully concentrate on the pain inside my head to make it as painful as possible. we probably share more in common with our sensor cousins than intro brothers.
i suppose for us ENP's, the problem arises from our secondary function forming a direct link with fourth until the third is developed enough to form a formidable filter enough for us to see the fourth with clarity.
oh, and on topic: ive met one intj, not that i even knew the person that well due limited contact, but around him i dont feel afraid of painful feelings. i suspect the interaction causes third function for enp's to be maximized and thus the bridge can be formed safely.
not to mention, it most likely only works with AAAA + BABB as for enp's that means, we arent using our Ne + Je's to create a favourable yet in controversy to our deeper identity image as we must for any other personality, due their expectations on which Ne is quick to pick even without your awareness of it.. which explains why sometimes i feel like i just cant be myself around most people, as Ne understand the other persons radically different way of experiencing the world and thus adapts. the difference between switching the intro and extro orientation alone cause a massive difference, as for ENP's when switching intro, its as if you lose control of your perspective entirely, you see what ever Ne feeds to the Si. zero control at malluebing your perspective. no looking at this or that angle, there is only one angle for INP's. their own. same goes for all other personalities where Pe dominates Pi in data flow direction. (4th function has control over 1st in the sense 1st depends on 4th for its self adjusting.) Pe > Pi also creates the illusion of no control over your environment, the infamous istp's "what happens happens" some tend to hold until maturing with Fe(which gives a sense of control).
ugh.. i desperately need to train my Si so as not to lose control like this..
but one effective solo method to train your fourth ans an ENP is using Je to scan for all possible ways you can perceive something, for you that means thinking over all possible ways to feel external aspects and once you find the ones you consider most positive, allow them to control your Si, your perspective. the key is in figuring out how to build a strong bond between your Je and Pi, otherwise both are out of sync without sense of control as you have described. (and thats caused by the fact, Si controls Pe in ENP's. and Pe equals actions in the sense, if you cant perceive something you cant act upon properly.)
the error happens usually cause of this: when alone, an incomplete Je allows a packet through which repeats itslf through the cycle eventually coming again at Ji, who in turn is in control of Je causing a negative paradox of compromised data packets being sent in a loop, for enfp that would explain why ive my whole life hated eating, without Te being able to interfere and tell how irrational the hate loop is due the fact its controlled by the Fi in the first place. in where an intj observing me could have easily pointed out the cause with use of Ni and explain with Te, thus repairing the error. infj would work the very same way for you, to spot the errors and repair them.
(and those painful never lasting loops i learned to escape by altering my cognitive functions.. if only modern psychology wasnt so primitive, plain useless. i even were a few years off my home for testings, but just how could they possibly figure nature already invented solutions to _every_ psychological problem. study nature with nature, ignoring is alike studying one piece of puzzle in hopes it would solve everything. when in fact, you need every piece to see it, obviously.)
since entp's are the masters of figuring who would come along with who on ti side, i suspect enfps were the specialists on the other side of fence, purposefully made by nature so as for us to juggle right people together to repair and grow each other.