Kasper
Diabolical
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Sorta...
But no one else can recognise the hint, right?
Sorta...
goodgrief, why don't *you* take the hint?
goodgrief, why don't *you* take the hint?
mmmmmm i fail XP.
What does passive aggresive mean?
Being ambiguous, cryptic or "hinting" as a means to reduce responsibility and "ownership" of your behavior. You clearly have feelings and desires, but only passively suggest them as to put pressure on the other person to "pick up on them" bring them into focus. It's tiring to put up with. That may not be the actual definition, but that's how I tend to think of it.
I admit this is a fault of mine I can't seem to get over. However, it's not really pressuring if the other person never notices, is it?
Maybe she notices but just doesn't want to reject you? Or feels to awkward about approaching it?
you have to say it in so many wordsI admit this is a fault of mine I can't seem to get over.
& the reason could be or most likely is the exact opposite.. the signature obliviousness doesn't manifest itself in this way and definitely not when you've been 'obvious' to the point where you're asking all these questions.. .. also, just in case, power issues shouldn't be part of the discourse/interactionHowever, it's not really pressuring if the other person never notices, is it?
And I will try to quit expressing my frustrations online.
& the reason could be or most likely is the exact opposite.. the signature obliviousness doesn't manifest itself in this way and definitely not when you've been 'obvious' to the point where you're asking all these questions.. .. also, just in case, power issues shouldn't be part of the discourse/interaction
Maybe you should express them to her, online. If you can't do it in person.
But no one else can recognise the hint, right?
Do you really need to make a thread every time you perceive an incremental development in your non-relationship? It's pathetic, childish, histrionic and tiresome all at once.