BlackCat
Shaman
- Joined
- Nov 19, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- ESFP
- Enneagram
- 9w8
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/sp
And in reference to the lack of focus, I should elaborate -- you're right. I mean in the sense that I'm aware I can be some what controlling and this girl was in my Western Civs class. We had a project that was worth a ridiculous amount of points...it seemed like her head was always in the clouds. Whenever I would tell her what to do (I told everyone what to do, I know, I know - looking back it was rather a bitchy thing to do) she would almost on purpose NOT do it. The only thing she did want to do was draw the poster, not help the group with the presentation. I dunno how to describe it -- I'm doing a rather terrible job of it.
I can see what you mean. It's probably inferior Te with somewhat weaker Ni, since at a high school age Ni wouldn't really be peeking around as much as it would be later in life. With open ended projects like that my first reaction is "damnit! What the hell am I going to do?" When I do work of any kind I like it being laid out specifically and working within those parameters. Otherwise I'm basically clueless. I was in a Chemistry class with one of those ENTJs, and you had a partner the entire semester and he was mine (that's how I met him). When we'd have projects or assignments that were open ended he'd instantly see a way to do it and I'd basically just get him to tell me what specifically to do. I always got the feeling that it got on his nerves, so I tried to just do my best.
And I despise people who bully others and would've probably told that guy the same thing. Getting to the point is really important with me as well. I hate people who beat around the bush and move about slowly -- I just want to shake them and make them MOVE so we can get on with life.
Yeah he got the bully good. He called himself a christian, but he was one of those guys who was just raised that way and didn't really introspect about it even though he lived by the values. And my friend was highly philosophical, and in his free time researched philosophers and religion. So yeah.