I'll clear this out - I am xxNJ, however I can't it narrow it down further now. I would appreciate your help
Let's say I am in the group of 5 people, and one of them is upset, doesn't talk. I would probably want to ask what's wrong, try to understand what's happening, and then advice her what she should do about it. But I am not alone, so maybe I wouldn't, as that might not work, as maybe she won't want to share it with everyone, and that will make her awkward and less comfortable. If I could convince her to share quickly, then we, the group, could discuss how her situation could be solved. If not, I would probably try to ask her something that really interests her, she knows about it, whenever I can. I am people motivator I'd say tbh. That's even more important than motivating myself, it seems, sometimes...
My perfect group...I think would be like less than 10 people, only few having a discussion. But the most important thing is that discussion would be useful to EVERYONE in that group, excluding people I don't like at all, or think they have no potential, so there is no point for them to listen to the group.
idk. Like most groups are...well, even if only few speak, like I want, they just share experiences, have "fun", party, which well, is okay sometimes, but it's not worth to be there that much. I hate sharing my "fun" experiences. I never do that. I wouldn't present it as ESTPs can.
I hate "social" groups etc. So pointless, like even worse than fun-focused groups. Really. Like in uni...one social group...members really like to advertiser the university, but idk, it's low level uni, why do that? They looks like idiots. Well, not that low, second best in this country, but I guess it doesn't match my standards. Haha. And they seem very humble, quite opposite of me, as I am very success oriented, ambitious. However, that's all in my mind, I have no works ethics or anything, so I pretty much do nothing, trying to go towards my goals. I am trying, getting better, but idk. I don't have "stuff" that I should be having now, as I failed in school earlier etc(wrong school, I was "weird").
I want to have my own group of friends I could discuss stuff and have fun from time to time. I don't have it, but I am sure it's what I see as the best.
I don't really like hugs, or kisses etc...NTJ?
I almost NEVER compliment people, unless I really think they deserve it. I don't like showing other people what I think of them either. Expressing what I "feel" is not what I rather enjoy.
When I am hurt, like if someone tells me my explanation of something was terrible or idk, I would probably not seem hurt to others. I think I would argue them if I think they are wrong, tho if they are right, I will probably come up with excuse of why it's bad, it will be a shame, and later I will probably think of how to solve that problem. Idk, there is probably nothing worse than...well, me making effort, and yet something I do fails. I think that's why I have hard time making effort, as I fear failure afterwards...
I think I am sometimes inconsiderate of others feelings tbh. Like if someone tells me they are very upset, sad, fear that something might happen to their friend...I won't "support" them emotionally, but try to advice what to do, and how to help that friend to survive or whatever.
If that tells you something, please share your thoughts. Thank you
Let's say I am in the group of 5 people, and one of them is upset, doesn't talk. I would probably want to ask what's wrong, try to understand what's happening, and then advice her what she should do about it. But I am not alone, so maybe I wouldn't, as that might not work, as maybe she won't want to share it with everyone, and that will make her awkward and less comfortable. If I could convince her to share quickly, then we, the group, could discuss how her situation could be solved. If not, I would probably try to ask her something that really interests her, she knows about it, whenever I can. I am people motivator I'd say tbh. That's even more important than motivating myself, it seems, sometimes...
My perfect group...I think would be like less than 10 people, only few having a discussion. But the most important thing is that discussion would be useful to EVERYONE in that group, excluding people I don't like at all, or think they have no potential, so there is no point for them to listen to the group.
idk. Like most groups are...well, even if only few speak, like I want, they just share experiences, have "fun", party, which well, is okay sometimes, but it's not worth to be there that much. I hate sharing my "fun" experiences. I never do that. I wouldn't present it as ESTPs can.
I hate "social" groups etc. So pointless, like even worse than fun-focused groups. Really. Like in uni...one social group...members really like to advertiser the university, but idk, it's low level uni, why do that? They looks like idiots. Well, not that low, second best in this country, but I guess it doesn't match my standards. Haha. And they seem very humble, quite opposite of me, as I am very success oriented, ambitious. However, that's all in my mind, I have no works ethics or anything, so I pretty much do nothing, trying to go towards my goals. I am trying, getting better, but idk. I don't have "stuff" that I should be having now, as I failed in school earlier etc(wrong school, I was "weird").
I want to have my own group of friends I could discuss stuff and have fun from time to time. I don't have it, but I am sure it's what I see as the best.
I don't really like hugs, or kisses etc...NTJ?
I almost NEVER compliment people, unless I really think they deserve it. I don't like showing other people what I think of them either. Expressing what I "feel" is not what I rather enjoy.
When I am hurt, like if someone tells me my explanation of something was terrible or idk, I would probably not seem hurt to others. I think I would argue them if I think they are wrong, tho if they are right, I will probably come up with excuse of why it's bad, it will be a shame, and later I will probably think of how to solve that problem. Idk, there is probably nothing worse than...well, me making effort, and yet something I do fails. I think that's why I have hard time making effort, as I fear failure afterwards...
I think I am sometimes inconsiderate of others feelings tbh. Like if someone tells me they are very upset, sad, fear that something might happen to their friend...I won't "support" them emotionally, but try to advice what to do, and how to help that friend to survive or whatever.
If that tells you something, please share your thoughts. Thank you