Guys!
I am a Dutch guy and I'm 19 years old. And for the last couple of years I've been learning about the mbti. Every time I take the test on multiple sites the outcome is ENFP. I can relate to it very much but when I recently read the discription of the INFJ type I was very confused because I think I can relate even more to that than to the ENFP.
Let's give you some background information:
Can you guys help me out if this is infj or enfp?
I am a Dutch guy and I'm 19 years old. And for the last couple of years I've been learning about the mbti. Every time I take the test on multiple sites the outcome is ENFP. I can relate to it very much but when I recently read the discription of the INFJ type I was very confused because I think I can relate even more to that than to the ENFP.
Let's give you some background information:
- my parents are divorces and though it's sometimes very hard to not begin a discussion with a stepfather or stepmother, I have always managed to keep the peace. But when something or some situations affects my loved ones like my mother father or brother, I will always do what's needed and say what I really think deep in my hart, whatever the consequences are.
- I am very creative. I have a optimistic solution for everything and I always want to help. I played the drums for 10 years, I like drawing but I'm not very good at it, I like producing music on a software for music production, and my biggest passion is cars. But, I'm also very practical. For example once I noticed that my father had some of his old but very good speakers stored in the garage, they were just catching dust. My new room was just build (only the walls and there was nothing but concrete) but there were switch plugs, so I went to the mall and get some new speaker cable. I was about 10 years and didnt know anything about how I was going to do it, but in the end of the day, with no eating, I had installed and fine tuned the speakers and receivers to perfection, and made the homework I still had to do in my new, unfinished room, with my favorite music. I was very proud and satisfied. (cool fact: that homework was the most important essay of the year and I had to study till 4 am because I had to deliver it the next morning)
- COOL FACT: when I was like 6 years old I was in lower school and my class had an assignment: drawing our best house on a piece of paper. I never liked to do what every other person was doing exactly the same, and when I was bored I always started drawing houses or cars, so I took one of that drawings I already had and started to order and clean the closet, because the tray in which the pencils, glue and papers were stored, was one big mess. In the end of the day, when every kid had their papers with drawings hanging on the line, every parent came to take a look on their kids drawings and my father asked where mine was. I showed my copy book to him with all the drawings from when I was bored and took him afterwards to the closet which was really clean and ordened now, against all the rules. I think I liked the appreciation but above all I really wanted to make a difference and thought the closet was more important and worth my time.
- I talk easy to people but I don't like the standard conversations like 'hey how are you doing?' 'I'm good and you?' I really get frustrated or really bored then. But when people like teachers or managers are very rigorous or factual, it's very hard for me to keep a normal conversation because I can't 'read them'. I want the real conversations, also with girls, but most girls on this age think that is a form of being insecure I think. Girls are very hard for me because when I act just how I am, it seems boring or childish for them I think. I also get anxious some times when it's going further or more intimate. It makes no sense to me. I have some girls that I see often when I go out at a club, and sometimes I take them on a short tour with my car, with nice music on and then when laugh and have deep conversations where they can give their personal problems and I think they like it. I think it will turn out fine. I'm sure you will never have a normal or boring time with me. I am shy or insecure to people sometimes but I think that's because they are people of whom I think of having a judgment on me. I don't like that.
- also when it's finally weekend, and I worked all week. I text all my friend to ask them to go out with me and with each other. I can get really excited about the weekend even if it's only Tuesday for example. Because of that all my friends are now each other's friend, because of me 😂. I always want to do something, even if it's going to the club till 3 am and I have to work the next day. But sometimes they can't go out or have to do 'their homework'. I have also homework but I do it Sunday evening or something, almost at the deadline. Why can't you do that? Is what I say then. I can get really really disappointed when there is a situation like that, so sometimes I go out by myself, hoping to see someone I know in the club. When I'm with friends (I have like 4 really good friends and many people I know there's no in between), we laugh at every sentence and I can be very lively and loud then. But when I come home form work, most of the time I go to my room and start listening music or play some game. I need isolation now and then, to think about what I will do with my life and that it has to be something meaningful and things like that. Because in half an hour I have to eat and then I will go to fitness with my friend! ðŸ†
Can you guys help me out if this is infj or enfp?