Hello! I'm trying to figure out my type, and was wondering if friends here could assist me. I'm unquestionably an ENxP - I'm very social, love interpersonal relationships, live in my head, and rely on improvisation and spontaneity over careful planning. I'm either an ENTP that's introspective, self-aware and emotionally intuitive or an ENFP that's reallllllllllly honed their extroverted thinking function. The tests used to score me as an ENTP, but now they're scoring me as an ENFP. Some of my personality traits:
- I love to debate, though I generally only argue about things I'm passionate about. To me, intellectual debate is an opportunity for me to express my principles and change the opinion of another party. (Bring them to my side, so to speak). If somebody infringes on my value system, I let them have it. I'm very adept at playing devil's advocate and seeing both sides of an issue, but I know when to drop the argument and focus on compromise instead. I do also enjoy the act of debate itself--I'm willing to change my opinions because I pride myself on intellectual diversity and intellectual independence. I can be incredibly rational and am very good at dissecting logical inconsistencies in arguments. Some people see this and perceive me as an analytical robot (my family especially). Poor logic and hypocrisy does genuinely bother me, and sometimes I need to be careful in hurting people when I argue. I try not to point out the hypocrisy of my friends, mostly because I value our relationship and am privy to their emotional sensitivities.
- I'm very self-aware and emotionally intuitive. Though I'm conventionally smart in an academic sense, I think people mistake my emotional intelligence and people skills with raw IQ or "smartness". I can read people phenomenally well--I don't mean this in a manipulative way. I know when people experience emotions, and I know why they're experiencing them. I'm very good at sizing up the emotional intentions and motives of other people. When I verbalize this to people, I freak people out because I'm almost always right.
- My empathy stems from a familiarity with emotional pain. I know what it's like to suffer. I score high on neuroticism and low on emotional stability on the Big 5. I'm a pretty anxious person, and I reason with my anxieties remarkably well. I know which anxious thoughts are irrational, and sometimes I impose this obsession with logic and rationality onto other people.
- Ironically, other people come to me for emotional support because they know I'm incredibly empathetic and warm. Having said that, I never actually open myself up to other people (which makes me think I'm an introverted feeler -- ENFP). A lot of the times I would rather withdraw and reflect on myself as a person. Me being Fi makes sense given that I'm very adamant about my principles. I strive to be a consistent person. However, I also really hate it when friend groups fight and am generally the one that tries to keep social harmony. I know that this is a pretty Fe trait. (I think, ironically, this maybe is because I strive to be a consistently nice, warm and empathetic person that helps others! My Fe tendencies are in alignment with my Fi self perception).
- One of my best friends is an INFJ. Her outward torrent of emotion can sometimes be overwhelming to me. However, I feel comfortable opening up to her. (Fi meets Fe?) Sometimes her emotion is also irritating in the sense that I interpret it as illogical. (But like I said, I have a bad habit of imposing logic onto other peoples emotions because reason and rationality helps me with my emotional turbulence).
- I fit both the personality stereotypes. Seriously--I see myself in both. This is a weird example, but some friends unequivocally see me as a cold and ambitious Slytherin that games the system. Other see me as a quirky, sensitive and empathetic Hufflepuff. (I don't actually super like Harry Potter, but you get the idea...)
So am I a weirdly empathetic and emotionally intellligent ENTP or an ENFP that has a strong tertiary function? I do have a lot of feelings, I just sort of bottle them up and deal with them internally... I lean towards ENFP but I'm curious to hear your thoughts!
Thanks friends!
Sorry that I just wrote an essay...
- I love to debate, though I generally only argue about things I'm passionate about. To me, intellectual debate is an opportunity for me to express my principles and change the opinion of another party. (Bring them to my side, so to speak). If somebody infringes on my value system, I let them have it. I'm very adept at playing devil's advocate and seeing both sides of an issue, but I know when to drop the argument and focus on compromise instead. I do also enjoy the act of debate itself--I'm willing to change my opinions because I pride myself on intellectual diversity and intellectual independence. I can be incredibly rational and am very good at dissecting logical inconsistencies in arguments. Some people see this and perceive me as an analytical robot (my family especially). Poor logic and hypocrisy does genuinely bother me, and sometimes I need to be careful in hurting people when I argue. I try not to point out the hypocrisy of my friends, mostly because I value our relationship and am privy to their emotional sensitivities.
- I'm very self-aware and emotionally intuitive. Though I'm conventionally smart in an academic sense, I think people mistake my emotional intelligence and people skills with raw IQ or "smartness". I can read people phenomenally well--I don't mean this in a manipulative way. I know when people experience emotions, and I know why they're experiencing them. I'm very good at sizing up the emotional intentions and motives of other people. When I verbalize this to people, I freak people out because I'm almost always right.
- My empathy stems from a familiarity with emotional pain. I know what it's like to suffer. I score high on neuroticism and low on emotional stability on the Big 5. I'm a pretty anxious person, and I reason with my anxieties remarkably well. I know which anxious thoughts are irrational, and sometimes I impose this obsession with logic and rationality onto other people.
- Ironically, other people come to me for emotional support because they know I'm incredibly empathetic and warm. Having said that, I never actually open myself up to other people (which makes me think I'm an introverted feeler -- ENFP). A lot of the times I would rather withdraw and reflect on myself as a person. Me being Fi makes sense given that I'm very adamant about my principles. I strive to be a consistent person. However, I also really hate it when friend groups fight and am generally the one that tries to keep social harmony. I know that this is a pretty Fe trait. (I think, ironically, this maybe is because I strive to be a consistently nice, warm and empathetic person that helps others! My Fe tendencies are in alignment with my Fi self perception).
- One of my best friends is an INFJ. Her outward torrent of emotion can sometimes be overwhelming to me. However, I feel comfortable opening up to her. (Fi meets Fe?) Sometimes her emotion is also irritating in the sense that I interpret it as illogical. (But like I said, I have a bad habit of imposing logic onto other peoples emotions because reason and rationality helps me with my emotional turbulence).
- I fit both the personality stereotypes. Seriously--I see myself in both. This is a weird example, but some friends unequivocally see me as a cold and ambitious Slytherin that games the system. Other see me as a quirky, sensitive and empathetic Hufflepuff. (I don't actually super like Harry Potter, but you get the idea...)
So am I a weirdly empathetic and emotionally intellligent ENTP or an ENFP that has a strong tertiary function? I do have a lot of feelings, I just sort of bottle them up and deal with them internally... I lean towards ENFP but I'm curious to hear your thoughts!
Thanks friends!
Sorry that I just wrote an essay...