HBIC
Member
- Joined
- Mar 5, 2014
- Messages
- 174
- MBTI Type
- ESTP
- Enneagram
- 8w7
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/sp
I'm a clear SX dom, according to some the most clear they've ever seen lol… and I'm mostly obsessed with my projects, music, writing and so forth, and sometimes a person.
That being said, even if my projects come to include social issues, the crux of them is always about a person. My songs, stories, everything; people tell me the lyrics are 'intellectual' and make psychological deep points… but I will be the first to confess that even a song that is about people or about myself, or about a social idea… was motivated by a guy I was in love with, either an ex or a prospect or a current…. EVERY TIME. It's always a thought process inspired by an SX connection. But then, over time, the project becomes much bigger to me than the SX connection alone. Like my book now, I came up with the plot 10 years ago and it came from IRL experiences with specific people.. but then their ideals and so forth, stemmed out to "symbolize" something larger.
[MENTION=21109]Look Alive_Sunshine[/MENTION]
Oh...well. I can’t say the same. I write about people too, but in general or referencing somebody in special, but not romantically. It just doesn't occur to me.
You seem like you're mostly having an illuminating discussion on what enneagram you are. That's great, BUT I just wanted to say that really, in the end, I think you're the only one that can type yourself.
Obviously.
Interesting, you picked all the contra-flow types. This doesn't surprise me, that's what I was figuring for you. Information on contra-flow and syn-flow are on the link I sent you. Yes, sexual doms will be obsessed by whatever or whomever attracts them. As [MENTION=17911]Animal[/MENTION] says, it's typically both. For sexual doms, life is about getting that charge and intensity.
I would think a 4w3 so/sp would identify a lot with 3. Conversely, it makes sense that sx 3w4 would identify a lot with 4. That's why I'd say try to focus on the instincts irrespective of the enneagram type. It might actually help you figure out your core type.
Yeah, individuals don't nearly interest me as much. If they pick my interest I become fixated on the idea of figuring that out but once I do, they're out of my mind again. Like a puzzle that has been solved.
At least the two types aren't largerly off the mark.
[MENTION=7140]brainheart[/MENTION] - I agree with you on that, especially where the dominant instinct is concerned.
I make a decent example of this, I think..
I was lucky in the sense that when I got to personalitycafe, I knew nothing about instincts, and everyone on the site immediately jumped on SX dom for me. I challenged it a bit, but it was just so abundantly clear. This helped me figure out my type. I still managed to mistype at 3 briefly, but I don't relate to sexual 3. I typed myself as Sp/Sx for a week or two, and soon enough I came to my senses and I knew that was the wrong type. (There were also many other reasons it was wrong, but this helped me to see it faster.) But it also might have contributed to my 5 and 8 mistypes, because sexual 5 still made SOME sense and sexual 8 made a lot of sense until I realized how incredibly SHALLOW lust can be. Type 8 Lust isn't about wanting to suck the emotions from someone who you know well, to feed on their soul.. it's about their body, and the conquest of it, the physical thrill. Once I realized how this wasnt' connected to emotion on the endemic level, and actually what I was experiencing was LONGING, thirst, dissatisfaction, "envy" - 4 made more sense. I wouldn't make sense as a social 4, and I needed to understand that difference because it explained why I was different from other 4s who were more vocal about their suffering and less "expressive of intensity" than I. So yeah.. having at least my first instinct quite clear, did help my process tremendously.
This was helpul.