sculpting
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Plus, I think we like taking care of people and raising them up, and ENFPs are a lot like kids. They're open and honest and fun, but sometimes they need to be spanked and brought back to reality.
well, I dunno about the spanking but I do note the reality checks. I actually exert considerable control over my own life and am fiercely independent. I do not take others attempts to control me kindly. I am quite hostile to others critiquing my parental skills, my financies or other aspects of my life. It always feels like an Fe slur. My rather erratic Te has done an okay job at reining in Ne in these areas, and I do well in life as a result, but I know that my boundaries are not ideal, thus will innately respond defensively at times to critique.
Yet for some reason when my INTJ offers critique, there is a second where I "think" to protest, but then rapidly, logically, Te style recognize the truth in his words. It doesnt feel like an Fe judgment, just a Te recognition of inefficiency. "Hmmmm, yeah, well he is right about that...." Even if it extends to sensitive areas like parenting or my personal finance.
The nice thing is that if i disagree, I either justify via pleasure-"I like this, thus I choose to do it, even if illogical" or I present Te style data to contradict the advice-then we discuss a few points and reach a logical choice.
It is just so simple and easy to be honest. It also allows me to be more open with respect to self improvement as I realize suggestions are not aimed at my deficiencies, but are more pragmatic in nature, thus allowable?