I'm probably an INTP (some tests it comes out as INTJ even sometimes INFJ). My P vs. J is pretty evenly balanced (like 52% to 48%). By a fluke of a dating site and "fun" tests I found out that the guy I just started dating is ESTJ. After reading the basic information about the type it makes sense and I can see it probably describes him pretty well.
I've heard both the advice that this combination is great and that it's from hell. So far, for me, it seems pretty great but it's a new thing and we both share a lot of similar values. Some of it is that he's traditional in some ways and I've come back around to some traditional values after seeing some things that didn't work for me so well. Not that we agree for exactly the same reasons, but what we agree on isn't always so far off and we complement each other in some personality ways. Did I mention I like this guy a whole lot?
But now for the comical and or slightly off kilter things:
For the first date he invited me to a fairly expensive event I probably would have never gone to on my own. It was sweet, but he didn't let me know far enough in advance so I already had plans. He claimed he'd planned it and someone else fell through so he had an extra ticket (and I'm internally wondering if this was true or he planned it for me). I felt bad since I would've loved to have gone and I felt maybe he took it personally (though he never has mentioned it negatively).
He also does some subtle name dropping kinds of things which I think I was supposed to be impressed by, but I just wasn't. Until I figured it out a bit more, my responses have been generally nonplussed. I just don't care all that much about status and status symbols. I care about him, not his stuff or who he knows. If he feels proud of his efforts, his hard work, and what he's accomplished I can genuinely care about that, but I have a hard time caring about the trappings.
After some Google stalking and digging up information, he's actually being pretty modest about his accomplishments. He's subtle about the name-dropping things I mentioned above. I can see he wants people to appreciate him and his successes, but he doesn't want to come off the wrong way. Actually, knowing more about him I feel quite out of my league . . . and it makes me a little insecure. While I'm moderately successful, I'm not going to impress him with it. Maybe the same is true in reverse, I'm not going to be particularly impressed with his status symbols, so maybe we're even.
Does this seem like a pretty typical scenario? Anything I should look for and expect from the situation?