ENTJ, misunderstood?
I think so. But, I only know one ENTJ (female) close enough to comment. One of my closest friends, been friends for 9 years. She's in med school. She was tested as ENTJ (not some bogus online test, but with a certified professional). She's quite tomboyish in certain pursuits....she's very into sports (lacrosse, field hockey, soccer, volleyball, etc, etc). Every night she's participating in one game or another. Yet, she's very very girly girl in mannerisms. Polite way of talking (although her voice is very loud - esp. when she gets excitable
). She loves all those girly shows like, "Sex in the City". Shopping. But, she knows her limits to girliness, as her two younger sisters, she calls, "The twin princesses"...because they're 'girly' from EVERY PORE. While my friend, there's quite a bit that would suprise you, like, really? She's interested in that? Bless her innocent heart, but, she's learning break dancing (and as I've told her,
you've got no rhythm, but, serious props for not letting that stop you).
And, I'm not exaggerating, but, she's the most sweetest person I've ever met in my life. Everyone who has met her, can't not think of her as sweet. We always joke, "Who'd ever wanna hurt [ENTJ]?" She'd be the last person on this earth who I'd think can make an enemy.
I was actually quite shocked that she was ENTJ, I def. thought she was ENFJ...but, nope.
If outsiders see my friend and I interacting, they'd think I had the more dominant personality. Because I talk/joke around way more than her. She loves to laugh, in return. She's more the sounding board in a conversation between us...maybe that's the dynamics of ENTP/ENTJ? ENTJ are the 'quieter', more receptive one.
The more you know her, the more you see the silent, strong determination of the ENTJ. Like, if she needs something done, she will nicely, but, with determination approach to get that done. No ifs ands or buts. Peer pressure is like non-stick spray on her. She never drank, smoked, etc...and no matter how many chances arise, how many people say, 'oh come on, just to say you've done it once', she never will.
As ENTP and ENTJ, we have an awsome time together. She loves indulging in my silliness, and is kinda in awe of it, she calls it my 'charm', and even when I complain of someone 'not getting me', she's such a good spirit-lifter with random thoughts like, "Psst, they obviously haven't evolved in humour!"
When I'm in the throes of panic because procastination has caught up with me,
yet again, and although she knows it is my P-ways that's my issues, rather than give impractical 'advice' like, 'well why didn't you do this or that before?' She's really good at finding out anticipated step by step crisis control. And, then, I add flair to it, or refinement, or patch some holes that has a potential to be a pitfall than a benefit. And, voila....it's brilliant.
I think that adjectives used in MBTI allows people to have, from their own basket of memories, an 'image' that fit that adjective. So, 'strong, determined'...most likely have images of an unbudging control freak, when, it could very well be the sweet girl next door.
