i think they follow it because they like it and prefer it.
Now if they actually said that then I'd kinda understand. Non rationalised wants and likes are cool but why oh why do people get this urge to get others to comply to something that they themselves don't even understand? It's mind boggling!!
I think traditions and formalities make people feel secure. Maybe it implies that the future is stable if they consider the past as stable. As children we accept much at face value from our caretakers. Maybe it's also related to a fear of the unknown? Traditions make more things 'known' in one viewpoint.
That's what I was thinking
I always get called a party pooper though if I point it out :rolli:
I personally don't care for tradition and formality. My own wedding was embarrassing, pressuring, intrusive, and on display. The wedding kiss was a horrible moment to 'perform' something like that. We just had a small little peck to get it over with and everyone laughed. I did like the dress, though. Funerals also make me feel like i never really knew the person, as they are reinterpreted in such formal terms. If most are comforted by these formalities, then have at it i suppose.
OMG!!!
Okay wedding planning. Don't want that.
Still trying to research a place which would kinda loan about a dozen dogs (who all got along of course). Now that should get people's minds off the formalities
Would also make for some nice photos. I could hide behind the dogs
Everyone gets over it in time (hopefully).
You mean I get over feeling like slapping them or they get over following it?
Those who you now see as purely peon
HEY!! I object.
Okay it's true but I'm still objecting.
Okay now carry on..
in terms of following a tradition because it exists will eventually start to attach personal emotional significance to it and use it consciously as a way to experience their concern for others.
That's the alien bit. Can't quite follow that manoeuvre.
Those like you will either remove yourself from the situation entirely because it's driving you fruit-batty or you will learn to take it for what it is and use it as a tool to show consideration in an easily understood form.
But damn it I should be designing the forms!! Definer!!!
I do see the point. When trying to express precisely and uniquely most do just shrug and go "huh?"
Not everyone warrants personal investment and emotional drain upon yourself; you will end up using some social rituals so that you can show consideration to those you are less connected with, without having to really pay attention to what you are doing.
True and that is what makes it all the more draining and irritating. You try and do something innovative and filled with forethought and care, all you get is queried as to why you didn't perform as per article 17 subsection B3 of the civilians handbook otherwise known as "How to make friends and influence people".
I swear that somedays though it's like everyone hired an "idiots guide to..." or one of those SAMS "teach yourself in 10 days" and is following it step by step.
Perhaps it's just over here but it seems like the term "guidline" over here means little less than rule and all those social niceties and rituals are considered guidelines.
Anyhow I think I have a plan for my own wedding. Full plate and a nice sword (all romantic and stuff) then if anyone asks me to dance (aside from she who must be considered) or stand infront of too many photos, get's it
