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What exactly have you lost out on in your life, that the fractions of pennies taken from your taxes for govt aid could have taken care of for you? To be clear, I'm not trying to antagonize.. that's a legitimate question. I'm not sure how to better phrase it, right now.At what point does the desire to protect people, yield to the reality that frequently that protection entails a lowered necessity to look after oneself.
You have a home, access to healthcare, access to food, clothes on your back, money to spend on hobbies/recreation/personal enrichment. You work in finance, right? I'm sure you've got a nice nest egg of savings/investments. And your parents will likely leave you something, too.
The system you have to contribute to may not be perfect, but day-to-day, do you ever have to really worry about how you'll cover any of these costs? The costs that make life sustainable? Or even the ones beyond survival that make it more worthwhile?
For context - If it weren't for public assistance, I would be homeless. I'd have no way to eat. Or even have a phone to coordinate care with my doctors. My medical costs would be insurmountable. The cost just to see the surgeon I need would be $860, just for one visit. The cost of my medical care for the past 12 months out of pocket would've been $17.5K. The additional cost of my medications out of pocket per year add up to $13.5K. The cost of an outpatient hip surgery I had a couple yrs ago would've been almost 80 grand out of pocket. I was in so much pain before that, that I woke up every couple of hours. I had to keep a stool in the kitchen just to make food or clean.
I'm having inpatient orthopedic surgery to preserve my hip this winter. I can't even begin to fathom how much that would cost out of pocket, given the price of less invasive outpatient surgery we already tried.
The genetic lotto not only blessed me with unstable joints & hip dysplasia, it also gifted asthma & a serious allergy to bee venom protein. Without Medicaid, I wouldn't have access to lifesaving albuterol & epinephrine. CVS doesn’t just hand those out for free.
When I was 10, a boy bashed me in the head with a rock, leaving me with a traumatic brain injury & a wound that exposed my skull. I've had debilitating migraines ever since.
The cost of a 1-month supply of sumatriptan injections to manage this otherwise intractable pain (that literally blinds me in one eye, causes vomiting that feels like explosions of glass shards around my brain... has made me wish I were dead at times...) would be $407 out of pocket. Within an hour of administering this medication, the pain episode is over.
My quality of life without this help would hardly exist, and I would not know a day without intolerable pain. And I am not unique in this- very far from it. I'm actually better off than a lot of people.
That said, I don't feel entitled to other people's resources, & it's embarrassing to announce at the cash register that I'm paying with EBT, especially because I appear young & completely able-bodied. But this aid is also the only option available to me, and millions like me, & those unimaginably worse off. Cancer patients, diabetics, CF patients... And so I'm beyond grateful this help exists. My co-pay for everything is $0. There's a good chance I wouldn't be alive without this.
It's disheartening to hear that people resent helping, or feel reluctant to help, where they can. I have less than nothing of value to my name, and when I don't spend my monthly food allotment on myself (because I'm lucky enough to find cheaper healthy food locally) I give the extra food to a struggling single parent in my life who doesn't qualify for aid but has trouble at times, regardless. Or I drop off some nonperishables at the food pantry. Whoever needs it more that month. Sure, I could stockpile those for myself, just keep thinking only of myself, but others exist who are even worse off. Pain is universal. Compassion can be, too.
And it doesn't take much of me to give. In fact, it feels more like I gain something of myself back. I'm not sure why it's so hard for countless others who are far better off- whose lives won't be terribly altered by contributing- to really grasp that concept.